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As you consider starting a search for family members, there are several things to remember:

  • Adoption law and regulations differ from country to country, state to state and, in some states, from county to county. These laws and regulations address the age at which an adoptee can receive information, who can request information, how, and what types of information are available.
  • Alabama, Alaska, Kansas, and Oregon are "open records" states where adoptees can receive original birth and possibly other adoption information on request. Some other states have provisions to release original birth and/or adoption information with restrictions.
  • When requesting information, start with the state where the adoption was finalized and not in the state where the adoptee was born, if different.
  • It's wise to know why you're searching and be as emotionally prepared as possible since your very first steps may result in contact, or your search could last for years with the possibility of never producing results.
  • Unfortunately, there have been cases of people contacting searching adoptees and birthparents claiming to be their parent, child, or sibling when this is not the case. Be aware that this can happen.
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scott - 1 year ago
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I was adopted at birth , with a brother who was 5 years older then me and was also adopted. . We were born in different states..I never really gave it much thought while growing up but as I get older it gets harder to ignore. My adoptive parents told me I was adopted at a very young age.they gave me some information about biological mother which is not absolutely correct..about a year ago I saw my original birth certificate, on that I was given a first name that I was not even aware of..my mom told me she told me all of that. .I think I would have remembered a detail like that..I guess my question is , if anyone could give me a place to start..all original records that I have give me no useful information that I can find...there are so many companies that say they can help..I don't want to be taken advantage of in the process..I live with en 50 miles of my birth hospital. .I am not sure how even telling this can help...any ideas ?? Thank you for taking time to read..scott #1
Jana - 1 year ago
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I think I have a sibling I don't know about. My father was in an air force training facility in Wisconsin around 1974 or 75. My siblings mother would be from there. My mother just told me today, that before they divorced he had been served with papers about a paternity suit but would not discuss the details with her. They divorced sometime afterward. Apparently it's a big secret and no one in my family knows of it. But he is now deceased. And I would like to know my big brother or sister. Hopefully he or she would like to know me. As soon as I got off the phone with her, I googled how to find a sibling and that led me to here. So, if You're out there I want to meet you! I don't know how this site works out how you'd contact me. I guess I'll figure that out. #2
kristin thorne - 1 year ago
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I know iam adopted everyone has lied to me about this I need to know ware to start. I need to now how to open a sealed adoption. but if my name and whole identity is false witch I know it is how do i go about this. Right now searching for my father and mother is not what im wanting right now I need to find out about the adoption and why all the lies told to me. I have herd of black marketing babies and so many horrible stories about adoptions, on my Birth Certificates my birthdate is September 29th 1969 I was born in San Gabriel Clif. but I know that was false information told to me .I just need someone who knows what I need to do to help me find closure in my life please . my email is xxxx thank you #3
Rebecca - 1 year ago
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My mother was born in 1919, adopted just a few days after birth. She passed away in 2006. I am searching for information on her biological parents, who have certainly also passed away by now - if her biological mother was a mere 13 yrs. of age when she gave birth, she would be 110 yrs. old now (highly doubtful). My goals are 1. to find their names and ancestors, as well as 2. possible to connect with other children born to my maternal biological mother, or her grandchildren. Arkansas Bureau of Vital Statistics insists that no records can be released until 100 yrs. after my mother's birth - 2019. Any help in finding information before then would be most helpful! #4
Alex - 3 years ago
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I am looking for my birth family. I was born September 09, 1985 in Sarasota, Florida at Sarasota Memorial Hospital. Mother is known to have blonde/reddish hair and blue eyes, average build, short, and around 20 years of age. Father I do not have information on. I am looking to find them and see if I have any siblings, I think I deserve to known and they should know they have grand children/nephews. Would be good to know my medical background. I really want to find out what my bio family is like. I feel like there is a piece of me missing. Please help. #5
Amy - 18 hours ago
I just found out that I have sister..she would be 42/43yrs old..my mother put her up for adoption as soon as she was born..they called her baby girl loranger.She was born at the Laconia Hospital in Laconia N.H..between the end of October and beginning of November in 1974..The social workers name is Zoe.she helped my mother with the adoption.my mother was 21 yrs old..unfortunately we do not have the same father..but I do know his name is Steven from tilton/northfield nh..he was a farmer..I wish it was my mother that told me and not another family member,my mother does not know that I know and I haven't told our older brother yet..I hope someone that has any information replies soon..Thank you.. #6
Guest - 5 days ago
My mom is 83 years old she been asking for her daughter and her son for a long time now I am 54 at this moment . I remember about 10 years ago I found Lorraine myles birth certificate I took it back to Memphis my intention was to find her but somewhere during the line I lost that birth certificate now my mom's 83 and i looking for my sister and brother Andrew myles which we named my nephew Andrew and my sister Lorraine myles I know she was born in 1957 I believe in Jackson Mississippi my mother had ten children two that past which is the baby boy Phillip and my sister Linda I am the baby girl l i need to find them as soon as possible i I love my mom and I need to do this for her and for me and the family and for my sister and brother I never met t #7
Michael Lee Acker - 5 days ago
Hey their this is Erica Michael Lee Acker s daughter I am looking for my fathers biological parents because I am curious too know my Fathers side ALL I know so far is that My dad was born In Fredericton, New Brunswick Ontario Canada When he was born 1954,07,28 AND that his real name is Francis Lee Woods or Summervilles He said he could be related to either one but his Adopted mom changed his name to Michael Lee Acker His adopted Mom’s Name is : Venus Acker but she got married again so her other name is Venus Adams I would love to get a follow up or an update if you guys need more information on my end then just give me an e-mail at xxxx please let me know thank you Sincerely Erica Gahan #8
Guest - 2 weeks ago
Looking for my birth father. Recently found out that my biological father is not man who raised me. I was born in Hudson County (likely Jersey City) New Jersey in 1966. Some information I have lists my birth date as October, 1966, but it may be July, August or even September of 1966. My mom lived in Jersey City at the time and had two small boys. DNA results show that I am of Iberian (Portuguese), Italian and Irish descent. Mom is suffering from early dementia - she does not remember who my dad was. I have found 3rd, 4th and 5th cousins (most of Portuguese ancestry from Massachusetts area at one time or another. ANY help would be greatly appreciated. #9
Jasmyne - 2 weeks ago
I'm looking for my younger brother born at Clear Lake Reginal hospital in Clear Lake, Texas on November 9, 2007. Andre Lashawn Bess was his birthname. i was only 10 years old when he was born and i only got to meet him twice before he had to be put up for adoption my family could not afford another baby. i feel guilty angry so many emotions i wish so badly i could have traded places with my baby brother. it just feels so unfair i feel empty like something is missing i just want him to know he is loved i wish so badly i could hug him. #10
Nikki - 1 year ago
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I have found out that I have a half sister, I do not know her name but her mothers name was Leslie and my fathers name was Robert. They were divorced in 1972, I believe she was born in NY and from what I was told her mothers father owned a construction company. The last name is not common at all it is Piekart. This is a long shot I don't know how old she is or her name but I would really love to see what she looks like #11
Brandi - 1 year ago
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I have a Sister that was born in Atlantic City, New Jersey on September 18, 1980 at Atlantic City Medical Center. She was adopted. All I know is to a couple from New York. The Mother was a School Teacher and the Father a Lawyer. The Birth records were sealed. So I don't think I can get any information. I have thought about Her all of My Life. If anyone knows any information on how to go about finding her please let me know. Thank you. #12
William - 3 weeks ago
I'm looking for 3 of my siblings. They were adopted by a family in Florida. My older half brother was called Robby he was a very sick child. He would be older than me. I just found out I have a full blooded sister that was adopted with him. Her name was Gloria. And one other half brother. I was born in 83 by a woman of the name Gloria black. That is literally all the information I had. The family who adopted them one of the parents was a doctor of some sort. I just got in contact with my half sister Beth who has a full blooded brother named Chris. All of us have the same mother. #13
Christie - 3 weeks ago
I found out a few years back that I have a half brother born probably around 1957,58,59. He was given up for adoption immediately. Mom won't really say too much about it. I think her family did a very good job of shaming her as she was not married and was made to move in with her grandparents until he was born and adopted out and I don't want to cause her more pain. But I can't get it out of my mind that I may have a big brother out there. This would have been in St. Paul, MN - possibly Mounds Park Hospital where I was born in 1961 after she was married as well as another sister. As a closed adoption and since I don't have any more reason than just plain curiosity, I don't know how I could ever find him. Maybe he's curious too if he knows that he is adopted?? If not it's ok, I just hope that he has had a good life and is happy and healthy. Only God knows I guess. Be well big brother. *hugs* #14
Shelli Bullard Trowbridge - 1 year ago
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I am looking for my sister who was given up for adoption in Aurora Colorado. She was 5 in 1966 or 67. Who name was Lisa Ann Bullard but is now Lisa Dade or Birch living in Grand Junction Co. She would be 55 years old. Parents were Mike and Rochelle Bullard. Thank you #15
Chloe - 1 month ago
Well alot happened in my child hood keeping my younger siblings fed at only age 5 with domestic violence and drugs in the house we was neglected amingst other issues with my moms affair we was put into car me and my brother but the other two my sister and my ither brother were adopted shortly after living with my other sibling i really want to see the other two my brother whos one year younger i see him regulary actually once a week but i want to wait to see the other two who are adopted together i want to know the answers if they remeber me why the adoptive parents stop sending letters and i wanna know if they would search for me havent gave it much thinking but knowing there okay and a recent pictures all i want i have 4/5 years untill they are 18 and thas the age they can request to find real family i want some way of telling them that i have been waiting for a long time for them to find me and i want them to show up one day at my house like nothing happened over the years... 🙌 #16
Stephen Lee (Propps -adopted last name) - 1 year ago
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I found out recently that I have a twin sister. That I was born in Newport News, Virginia. My adopted mother will not share any info. Did find out birth mother was a Shirley Rouse. I need to locate the hospital in which we were born. I want to find my sister. #17
James Kurowski - 1 year ago
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In search of who ever put me up for adoption? :) My name is James. I was born on Christmas eve December 24th 1979.. I live in (NW) Indiana area I am 37yrs. I was adopted by the time I was 3.. I am hearing impaired very intelligent though. :) I resemble woody harralson some what. lol I am just if you are out there please contact me.. #18
kimberly scull - 1 year ago
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I am in search for my daughter she was taken from me when she was 6 months old..I went to jail and DCF took her and then they took my rights..I want nothing more to know how my daughter is doing and Wjat she looks like..As far as I knew she stayed in Sprjnghill but not sure where she might be now all I know if I just need some closure.I didnt do anything to be taken away from my Madison I just made a bad choice....So hopefully one day everything will l #19
Julia - 1 year ago
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I am searching for my brith family. I don't know my birthday and my age. I have been a great mark, singer and dancing too. I am looking for brith mom, dad and siblings. I have been a good listening at school. I don't know where I was born. I have be a great mature at school and at my home too. I always do my work and pay attention at school. I always pass my work at school. #20

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