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As you consider starting a search for family members, there are several things to remember:

  • Adoption law and regulations differ from country to country, state to state and, in some states, from county to county. These laws and regulations address the age at which an adoptee can receive information, who can request information, how, and what types of information are available.
  • Alabama, Alaska, Kansas, and Oregon are "open records" states where adoptees can receive original birth and possibly other adoption information on request. Some other states have provisions to release original birth and/or adoption information with restrictions.
  • When requesting information, start with the state where the adoption was finalized and not in the state where the adoptee was born, if different.
  • It's wise to know why you're searching and be as emotionally prepared as possible since your very first steps may result in contact, or your search could last for years with the possibility of never producing results.
  • Unfortunately, there have been cases of people contacting searching adoptees and birthparents claiming to be their parent, child, or sibling when this is not the case. Be aware that this can happen.
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Cynthia - 4 days ago
My mother was Angela Lowe. she was a communications officer in the Army in 1967. She got pregnant with me in late 1967 by a man who was married with his own children and an MP at the time I believe. They were stationed in Fort Richie Maryland. My mother gave birth to me in 1968 and 2 years later her husband adopted me.My mother died in 1978 and never gave me the name of my father. If you are out there- I don't want anything- I just want to know where my looks come from, maybe medical background. I won't interfere in your life, I'm just looking for answers. #1
Madeleine Henderson (Hansen) - 5 days ago
I gave my daughter up for adoption in July, 1986 in San Francisco, CA. I was 16 years old. I used Children's Home Society. We had an open adoption and up until my daughter "Whitney" was 11, I received pictures and updates. Then they stopped all of a sudden. Children's Home Society no longer exists as an adoption agency. I would really like to know how I start searching for her. She has two younger biological sisters now and we would love to find "Whitney". There are some medical issues that she needs to be made aware of as these could effect her as well. Can anyone lead me in the right direction? #2
James Edward Pace - 5 days ago
I am his biological mom and his dad is here to He was born in Batesville Arkansas Independence County on May 22,2002 I have been looking for him for a long time. He was a ward of the State of Arkansas DHS. They took him from us. We loved him always and have kept all his pictures and whatever we could of him. There isn't a day goes by that I stop looking for him We live in Arizona now his brother also lives here to. My name is Patty Pace and his dads name is Harry Pace his brothers name is Joseph Missing him and looking for him. Hope to hear from him soon. #3
scott - 1 year ago
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I was adopted at birth , with a brother who was 5 years older then me and was also adopted. . We were born in different states..I never really gave it much thought while growing up but as I get older it gets harder to ignore. My adoptive parents told me I was adopted at a very young age.they gave me some information about biological mother which is not absolutely correct..about a year ago I saw my original birth certificate, on that I was given a first name that I was not even aware of..my mom told me she told me all of that. .I think I would have remembered a detail like that..I guess my question is , if anyone could give me a place to start..all original records that I have give me no useful information that I can find...there are so many companies that say they can help..I don't want to be taken advantage of in the process..I live with en 50 miles of my birth hospital. .I am not sure how even telling this can help...any ideas ?? Thank you for taking time to read..scott #4
Monica - 2 weeks ago
I am looking for any birth siblings. Bio mom's maiden name is Dastillon. I know that I have siblings that were given up for adoption, but I have NO information on them. They would have been born in the 80's. I do not know if there was an adoption agency involved or not, but I doubt it. I am assuming that your birth would've taken place in Texas. My other sisters and I were all born at 3 different hospitals. One in New Boston, TX, one in Texarkana, TX (both Bowie County) and the other in Titus County. If you were born in this area in the 80's and bio mom maiden name is Dastillon, please contact me. xxxx. #5
Jana - 1 year ago
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I think I have a sibling I don't know about. My father was in an air force training facility in Wisconsin around 1974 or 75. My siblings mother would be from there. My mother just told me today, that before they divorced he had been served with papers about a paternity suit but would not discuss the details with her. They divorced sometime afterward. Apparently it's a big secret and no one in my family knows of it. But he is now deceased. And I would like to know my big brother or sister. Hopefully he or she would like to know me. As soon as I got off the phone with her, I googled how to find a sibling and that led me to here. So, if You're out there I want to meet you! I don't know how this site works out how you'd contact me. I guess I'll figure that out. #6
vicki - 2 weeks ago
im looking for my older sister my mother told me i had a older sister named debra ann and she was born sept 6th 1958 or 1959 .in marshall michigan,my mom wasonly 16 and she put her up for adoption to give her a better life . im 55 yrs old and ive always wondered what my big sister looked like and would we be close if i found her.i feellike a peice of me has been missing all these years ,.my mom heard that she married and either lives in colorado or north dakota ..im not sure if you would be able to help me but thank you for your time .vicki #7
Renee - 3 weeks ago
My father in law was adopted in Pennsylvania,( Pittsburgh area ) on July 17 1941 by albert Cenci and Rita ( O'shea ) Cenci. He was born March 11 1940 at roselia founding home and maternity hospital near Pittsburgh. His biological mom gave him the name James Francis webb. she was 27 year old Catholic women and the father was 26 years old also Catholic but no other information about them. I'm looking for any relatives who might be interested in talking about any information they might have on his biological parents. The name that was given is Webb. The mom and dad would have been mid 20's in 1940. She went to live at roselia founding home on February 20 1940 ,games e birth on March 11 and then left the home on April 3 1940. She returned on Oct 24 1940 and surrendered and entrusted baby James to roselia founding. He then was adopted on July 17 1941 at this time he was 15 months old. At this time Albert and Rita( O'shea) cenci adopted him and stayed in the Pittsburgh area. #8
kristin thorne - 1 year ago
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I know iam adopted everyone has lied to me about this I need to know ware to start. I need to now how to open a sealed adoption. but if my name and whole identity is false witch I know it is how do i go about this. Right now searching for my father and mother is not what im wanting right now I need to find out about the adoption and why all the lies told to me. I have herd of black marketing babies and so many horrible stories about adoptions, on my Birth Certificates my birthdate is September 29th 1969 I was born in San Gabriel Clif. but I know that was false information told to me .I just need someone who knows what I need to do to help me find closure in my life please . my email is xxxx thank you #9
Hannah - 3 weeks ago
I'm looking for my 28 year old half brother. His name is Eric Gray and he was born August 15th, 1989. He was born in Arizona and when he was adopted, went to California. Not sure if he's still there, though. His parents are George Gray and I'm 98% sure his mother's name is Sharon Gray. Not aware of either of their ages. I have searched practically all of the possible spellings for Eric Gray on facebook, but i feel i've failed every time. The only picture i have ever seen of him as well as my mother, is when he was a toddler. This is my first time posting in a public place, so any direction would be amazing. Thank you for taking the time to read this. xo hannah #10
Sally - 3 weeks ago
I was born in another state and when my mother (who is now deceased) married my stepdad, he adopted me. I have the birth certificate that shows my stepdads last name, but I don't know what my last name was at birth. My stepdad, who raised me as his own will not give me any information and we no longer talk. My mother, both of her parents, and both of her sisters have all passed on. The only connection I've been able to make since my mothers passing 20 years ago is with 3 of her cousins, my second cousins. They were all too young back then and really don't know who my birth father is. As stated, I was raised in another state (Michigan) approx. 2800 miles away. I THINK my birth fathers first name is Chris, but that's all I know. Is there any trustworthy way to find out more? I'm not even 100% sure of where I was born. My mother lived in Spokane, WA but I was told her mother sent her away to have me. Any suggestions GREATLY appreciated! Thank you so much in advance, Sally #11
Rebecca - 1 year ago
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My mother was born in 1919, adopted just a few days after birth. She passed away in 2006. I am searching for information on her biological parents, who have certainly also passed away by now - if her biological mother was a mere 13 yrs. of age when she gave birth, she would be 110 yrs. old now (highly doubtful). My goals are 1. to find their names and ancestors, as well as 2. possible to connect with other children born to my maternal biological mother, or her grandchildren. Arkansas Bureau of Vital Statistics insists that no records can be released until 100 yrs. after my mother's birth - 2019. Any help in finding information before then would be most helpful! #12
Leanna - 3 weeks ago
My Mother who has no passed told her daughters she had adopted a child out when she was younger, sent away from home to stay with a Aunt who has also passed. She has no recollection of the birth, I know it was approx. 1959/1960...She did not recall the year, the date or even the sex although she thought it was a boy. She also thought my Aunt may have had given the baby to a friend and not actually had a legal adoption, how do I even begin to start to find any information. All I have is my Mothers name, the city that the child would have been born in. It was her dream to find this child she did not want to adopt out. Her remaining children would love to find this sibling and make my Mom's dream come true. #13
Janet - 4 weeks ago
My mother, Deloris, had a little girl named Patsy in 1959 or 1960. My biological father, Bill, forced her to give her up for adoption. Patsy was adopted to a doctor in Dade City Florida, but I have been unsuccessful in locating her. I believe she was renamed Dina or Debbie but am not certain. I'd love my mother to see the child she longs for again. Mama is in her late 70s and this would mean the world to her. I know some family has information but they won't tell us anything due to a promise they made when Patsy was taken away. #14
Brianna - 1 month ago
I was separated from my 2 sisters about 10 years ago.. my name then was Brieann Stellwag. They are now 15 and 12 years old. One of them lives in Georgia last I knew and the other in Indiana. The middle sister is part African American and her name is Audrianna and my other sister is white and is named Kara. Our mothers name was Michelle. I really miss them and I have a void in my heart. I'm at the point of feeling like I will never see them again.. I was adopted at age 10 and they both went to live with their fathers. Our Mother left us for some guy and moved to Pennsylvania. I have had no contact with her and I am not sure if they have.. I really want to see them and get to know them. It has been so long I don't even know if they would remember who I am.. I just feel a void and I have a cloud over my head.. I just want to know that they are okay and are growing up in a good place.. #15
chuck - 1 month ago
Girl born at Wilford Hall Lackland AFB 77-78, Texas has closed adoption records. My wife is her mother this was four years before we met. WE have two children of our own now. I don't know the father's family. But I know my wife has never forgot you.You have a Brother and sister. They don't know about you. She was new to the military life 18 and she don't know I wrote this, we been together 35 years and I want you to know she talked in her sleep when we first started dating and she felt your separation and would cry in her sleep over her desition to let you go.She was still in training school and single. I can't even image that feeling or ever haveing to choose. I hope if you read this you was always wanted and you have a good life. #16
Silver Ovechka - 1 month ago
I am searching for my half sister,. She was born in Tacoma Washington on March 8th, 1977 and would have just turned 40 years old. Her mother (17yr at the time, Julie Freeman) is Caucasian and her father (unknown) was Africa American. She was adopted to a wonderful family right after birth. My mother has never stopped wondering about her and due to Washington being a closed adoption state she has never really been able to search for her. I would love to meet her and I know my mom would give anything in this world tof just see her and know how she is doing. #17
LuCheir - 2 months ago
Adoptee looking for birth mom/dad I was born on Feb 03,1971 in Torrance.ca @ Harbor General Hospital I don't have much info on my birth parents just that she was 19 years old Irish German descent. I really don't know where to start I did ask medical records at the hospital but they were not allowed to give me that info because of HIPAA la and because I didn't have any info on my birth mom such as name xcetera. I don't know how this website works but I'm just going to put my message out there anyways. #18
Maria - 2 months ago
I was left by my biological father when i was newborn baby and i was with my biological mother with my stepdad that now i call dad because he took care of me when i was 1 years old. I am glad i have a wonderful dad even though is not from blood but i'm happy because I was raised by a mother and father. Without a father it will not be cool spending fun time. But appreciate that because he buys me everything i need. But I still want to know my biological father by name and person because I don't even have his last name. I have my mom's last name. #19
Dave - 18 hours ago
I'm looking for my two boys. I have not seen them since July 16th 1997. I know they were living with their Grandmother in Traverse city Michigan, but I'm not positive she adopted them. The courts of Michigan severed my parental rights and the state of Michigan had them in foster care. They would be 24 years of age and 22. They're names are Dave Ray and Sean Isaac (last names before adoption was Fisher) They're Grandmother's name is sherry Durrette. Lived in Traverse city Michigan #20

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