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As you consider starting a search for family members, there are several things to remember:

  • Adoption law and regulations differ from country to country, state to state and, in some states, from county to county. These laws and regulations address the age at which an adoptee can receive information, who can request information, how, and what types of information are available.
  • Alabama, Alaska, Kansas, and Oregon are "open records" states where adoptees can receive original birth and possibly other adoption information on request. Some other states have provisions to release original birth and/or adoption information with restrictions.
  • When requesting information, start with the state where the adoption was finalized and not in the state where the adoptee was born, if different.
  • It's wise to know why you're searching and be as emotionally prepared as possible since your very first steps may result in contact, or your search could last for years with the possibility of never producing results.
  • Unfortunately, there have been cases of people contacting searching adoptees and birthparents claiming to be their parent, child, or sibling when this is not the case. Be aware that this can happen.
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scott - 9 months ago
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I was adopted at birth , with a brother who was 5 years older then me and was also adopted. . We were born in different states..I never really gave it much thought while growing up but as I get older it gets harder to ignore. My adoptive parents told me I was adopted at a very young age.they gave me some information about biological mother which is not absolutely correct..about a year ago I saw my original birth certificate, on that I was given a first name that I was not even aware of..my mom told me she told me all of that. .I think I would have remembered a detail like that..I guess my question is , if anyone could give me a place to start..all original records that I have give me no useful information that I can find...there are so many companies that say they can help..I don't want to be taken advantage of in the process..I live with en 50 miles of my birth hospital. .I am not sure how even telling this can help...any ideas ?? Thank you for taking time to read..scott #1
Jana - 9 months ago
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I think I have a sibling I don't know about. My father was in an air force training facility in Wisconsin around 1974 or 75. My siblings mother would be from there. My mother just told me today, that before they divorced he had been served with papers about a paternity suit but would not discuss the details with her. They divorced sometime afterward. Apparently it's a big secret and no one in my family knows of it. But he is now deceased. And I would like to know my big brother or sister. Hopefully he or she would like to know me. As soon as I got off the phone with her, I googled how to find a sibling and that led me to here. So, if You're out there I want to meet you! I don't know how this site works out how you'd contact me. I guess I'll figure that out. #2
kristin thorne - 9 months ago
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I know iam adopted everyone has lied to me about this I need to know ware to start. I need to now how to open a sealed adoption. but if my name and whole identity is false witch I know it is how do i go about this. Right now searching for my father and mother is not what im wanting right now I need to find out about the adoption and why all the lies told to me. I have herd of black marketing babies and so many horrible stories about adoptions, on my Birth Certificates my birthdate is September 29th 1969 I was born in San Gabriel Clif. but I know that was false information told to me .I just need someone who knows what I need to do to help me find closure in my life please . my email is xxxx thank you #3
Rebecca - 10 months ago
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My mother was born in 1919, adopted just a few days after birth. She passed away in 2006. I am searching for information on her biological parents, who have certainly also passed away by now - if her biological mother was a mere 13 yrs. of age when she gave birth, she would be 110 yrs. old now (highly doubtful). My goals are 1. to find their names and ancestors, as well as 2. possible to connect with other children born to my maternal biological mother, or her grandchildren. Arkansas Bureau of Vital Statistics insists that no records can be released until 100 yrs. after my mother's birth - 2019. Any help in finding information before then would be most helpful! #4
Erika - 1 day ago
According to my birth records, i was born in 1971..in GA..but im not too sure....what I am sure of is that neither me nor my kids resemble ANYONE in the family and they have always treated us differently. I am now 45 years old and am searching for the truth myself, since no one can tell me...smh...if u are looking for me or know of someone that lost or had to give up a daughter PLEASE let me know...my email is:xxxx call me at xxxxx.. I would really like to know who I am and stop being treated like TRASH! #5
Orlando colon - 2 days ago
Searching for my son his birth name was Orlando Colon the third born in Reading Pa. He was place in Open Doors Adoption Agency in reading pa with his three sisters (two are twins). They were given up by their biological mother some where between 1999/2001. I have search every where with no luck. I believe their names where change cuz I can not find any information about them. I have search every adoptee seeking parents site and can't find anything. My son is going to be 21 and I will love to reunited with him. Any information is appreciated. #6
Martha - 4 weeks ago
I am looking for a foster brother that we loved very much. We called him Lowell but when he was adopted they changed his name and though they sent our family a letter with the new name social services in SC edited it out. "Lowell would have been born in about 1968 or 1959. He stayed with our family for close to 3 years. He went to visit his adoptive parents I think 3 times before he left for good. Would love to let him know that we often thought of him and never forgot him. Our family name was Schrock from around Barnwell, SC. Would love to hear from this close to 50 yr old "brother" again! :) #7
WMI - 1 month ago
A young lady called our house in the 1970's stating that my father was her father. My father spoke to her, denied to her that he was her father. After WWII, my father was located in a DP camp in Germany with a large group of Serbians. It's possible that she could be my sibling. Up until the day of his death, my father refused to acknowledge the young lady. After the phone call he chose not to discuss the matter again. It wasn't until the week before his death that I brought up the phone call. He said that it was doubtful that she was his daughter. I don't know her first name but do know that her mother named my father. The young lady was born in Borchorst Germany between 1948 and 1951. If nothing else, I would love to meet her and thru DNA testing see if indeed she is my sister. #8
Evelyn Bautista De Guzman - 1 month ago
Good Day! I want to ask if you can help me find my Auntie Gloria Haasl if she is in a good condition I'm her niece.We are from the Philippines it's more than a decade since we don't have an idea where is she now.My mother Estrella Cirilo Bautista is her younger sister. Before I send her Christmas card to be able to feel her that we always think of her.But as years go by i stop sending card's not because we already forgot my Auntie but because my mother died in the year of 2000.My Auntie Gloria is a very nice person that's why she always remember eventhough we are not close to her. We always remember her she loves my mother so much.We saw my Auntie when I was in grade school.Because her place is very farfrom us all we have to do is we include Auntie Gloria together with her husband Mr.Haasl in our prayer's as always.Now that it's Christmas season again and I search for this I'm Hoping for a positive result and can help me find an answer in advance I like to say Thank you and God Bless #9
Nikki - 9 months ago
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I have found out that I have a half sister, I do not know her name but her mothers name was Leslie and my fathers name was Robert. They were divorced in 1972, I believe she was born in NY and from what I was told her mothers father owned a construction company. The last name is not common at all it is Piekart. This is a long shot I don't know how old she is or her name but I would really love to see what she looks like #10
Brandi - 9 months ago
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I have a Sister that was born in Atlantic City, New Jersey on September 18, 1980 at Atlantic City Medical Center. She was adopted. All I know is to a couple from New York. The Mother was a School Teacher and the Father a Lawyer. The Birth records were sealed. So I don't think I can get any information. I have thought about Her all of My Life. If anyone knows any information on how to go about finding her please let me know. Thank you. #11
Shelli Bullard Trowbridge - 9 months ago
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I am looking for my sister who was given up for adoption in Aurora Colorado. She was 5 in 1966 or 67. Who name was Lisa Ann Bullard but is now Lisa Dade or Birch living in Grand Junction Co. She would be 55 years old. Parents were Mike and Rochelle Bullard. Thank you #12
Stephen Lee (Propps -adopted last name) - 10 months ago
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I found out recently that I have a twin sister. That I was born in Newport News, Virginia. My adopted mother will not share any info. Did find out birth mother was a Shirley Rouse. I need to locate the hospital in which we were born. I want to find my sister. #13
James Kurowski - 10 months ago
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In search of who ever put me up for adoption? :) My name is James. I was born on Christmas eve December 24th 1979.. I live in (NW) Indiana area I am 37yrs. I was adopted by the time I was 3.. I am hearing impaired very intelligent though. :) I resemble woody harralson some what. lol I am just if you are out there please contact me.. #14
kimberly scull - 10 months ago
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I am in search for my daughter she was taken from me when she was 6 months old..I went to jail and DCF took her and then they took my rights..I want nothing more to know how my daughter is doing and Wjat she looks like..As far as I knew she stayed in Sprjnghill but not sure where she might be now all I know if I just need some closure.I didnt do anything to be taken away from my Madison I just made a bad choice....So hopefully one day everything will l #15
Teresa - 2 days ago
I am looking for my half brother, was born around 1xxxxx. I was told he was adopted by a Seventh Day Adventist family in CA. I was also told the Adoptive Father was a Dentist. I wish I had more information but adoptive birth records in NE are closed. I was told he was born in Omaha NE when I was 2 years old. I was born 10/03/1959. #16
Julia - 10 months ago
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I am searching for my brith family. I don't know my birthday and my age. I have been a great mark, singer and dancing too. I am looking for brith mom, dad and siblings. I have been a good listening at school. I don't know where I was born. I have be a great mature at school and at my home too. I always do my work and pay attention at school. I always pass my work at school. #17
Michael Scott Ruble - 3 days ago
I have a brother who i have never met , named Michael Scott Ruble . Birthdate of Nov-25-1986 he is . Born in lexington ky. He was adopted out years before i was born . Im in hopes of finding him one day. If he ever sees this ,i want him to kno i love him and his family and he is not forgotten. From his sister Samantha. #18
Yebralem. Gebrehiwot - 3 days ago
Hello i am looking for my child born in beirut near ashrafie in augst i dont real know the exact day in 1997 i was 16 and i am very Sad to give him or her up i am from ethiopia the sisters of st vicent de paul Church that is where they take my child i remember this only pls any one has the same story i have been looking all my life i dont even have the birth certificate #19
Laura - 5 days ago
I am looking for my half sister that was adopted from birth. I know she was born in Columbus ,Ohio around 1964. She was adopted by a very nice family from Beckley, Ohio I do believe. The birth mothers name was Patricia O'brien. She was also born at Doctors Hospital in Columbus ,Ohio. #20

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