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As you consider starting a search for family members, there are several things to remember:

  • Adoption law and regulations differ from country to country, state to state and, in some states, from county to county. These laws and regulations address the age at which an adoptee can receive information, who can request information, how, and what types of information are available.
  • Alabama, Alaska, Kansas, and Oregon are "open records" states where adoptees can receive original birth and possibly other adoption information on request. Some other states have provisions to release original birth and/or adoption information with restrictions.
  • When requesting information, start with the state where the adoption was finalized and not in the state where the adoptee was born, if different.
  • It's wise to know why you're searching and be as emotionally prepared as possible since your very first steps may result in contact, or your search could last for years with the possibility of never producing results.
  • Unfortunately, there have been cases of people contacting searching adoptees and birthparents claiming to be their parent, child, or sibling when this is not the case. Be aware that this can happen.
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Andrew Christensen - 3 years ago
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I am looking for my birth family; mom, dad and possible siblings. I am a male, born January 23, 1972 in Ramsey county of St. Paul Minnesota. On my birth certificate, there is no hospital listed. Immediately after my birth, I was placed in a lutheran or presbyterian orphanage until the age of 9 months, when I was adopted by my parents. It was told to me that my birth mother was in her teens when she got pregnant with me and was sent away to Minnesota to give birth, before returning home. I have no information on my birth father. The information I have is very little. I attempted to request information on my birth mother by St. Paul's city records, but the adoption was closed and no information was able to be given. I've hit a wall on where to go next. I would like to know who my birth mom is, if I have siblings and how to get into contact with them. Any help or guidance would mean the world to me. Thanks. #1
scott - 1 year ago
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I was adopted at birth , with a brother who was 5 years older then me and was also adopted. . We were born in different states..I never really gave it much thought while growing up but as I get older it gets harder to ignore. My adoptive parents told me I was adopted at a very young age.they gave me some information about biological mother which is not absolutely correct..about a year ago I saw my original birth certificate, on that I was given a first name that I was not even aware of..my mom told me she told me all of that. .I think I would have remembered a detail like that..I guess my question is , if anyone could give me a place to start..all original records that I have give me no useful information that I can find...there are so many companies that say they can help..I don't want to be taken advantage of in the process..I live with en 50 miles of my birth hospital. .I am not sure how even telling this can help...any ideas ?? Thank you for taking time to read..scott #2
Jana - 1 year ago
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I think I have a sibling I don't know about. My father was in an air force training facility in Wisconsin around 1974 or 75. My siblings mother would be from there. My mother just told me today, that before they divorced he had been served with papers about a paternity suit but would not discuss the details with her. They divorced sometime afterward. Apparently it's a big secret and no one in my family knows of it. But he is now deceased. And I would like to know my big brother or sister. Hopefully he or she would like to know me. As soon as I got off the phone with her, I googled how to find a sibling and that led me to here. So, if You're out there I want to meet you! I don't know how this site works out how you'd contact me. I guess I'll figure that out. #3
kristin thorne - 1 year ago
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I know iam adopted everyone has lied to me about this I need to know ware to start. I need to now how to open a sealed adoption. but if my name and whole identity is false witch I know it is how do i go about this. Right now searching for my father and mother is not what im wanting right now I need to find out about the adoption and why all the lies told to me. I have herd of black marketing babies and so many horrible stories about adoptions, on my Birth Certificates my birthdate is September 29th 1969 I was born in San Gabriel Clif. but I know that was false information told to me .I just need someone who knows what I need to do to help me find closure in my life please . my email is xxxx thank you #4
Rebecca - 1 year ago
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My mother was born in 1919, adopted just a few days after birth. She passed away in 2006. I am searching for information on her biological parents, who have certainly also passed away by now - if her biological mother was a mere 13 yrs. of age when she gave birth, she would be 110 yrs. old now (highly doubtful). My goals are 1. to find their names and ancestors, as well as 2. possible to connect with other children born to my maternal biological mother, or her grandchildren. Arkansas Bureau of Vital Statistics insists that no records can be released until 100 yrs. after my mother's birth - 2019. Any help in finding information before then would be most helpful! #5
Alex - 3 years ago
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I am looking for my birth family. I was born September 09, 1985 in Sarasota, Florida at Sarasota Memorial Hospital. Mother is known to have blonde/reddish hair and blue eyes, average build, short, and around 20 years of age. Father I do not have information on. I am looking to find them and see if I have any siblings, I think I deserve to known and they should know they have grand children/nephews. Would be good to know my medical background. I really want to find out what my bio family is like. I feel like there is a piece of me missing. Please help. #6
Nikki - 1 year ago
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I have found out that I have a half sister, I do not know her name but her mothers name was Leslie and my fathers name was Robert. They were divorced in 1972, I believe she was born in NY and from what I was told her mothers father owned a construction company. The last name is not common at all it is Piekart. This is a long shot I don't know how old she is or her name but I would really love to see what she looks like #7
Brandi - 1 year ago
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I have a Sister that was born in Atlantic City, New Jersey on September 18, 1980 at Atlantic City Medical Center. She was adopted. All I know is to a couple from New York. The Mother was a School Teacher and the Father a Lawyer. The Birth records were sealed. So I don't think I can get any information. I have thought about Her all of My Life. If anyone knows any information on how to go about finding her please let me know. Thank you. #8
Shelli Bullard Trowbridge - 1 year ago
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I am looking for my sister who was given up for adoption in Aurora Colorado. She was 5 in 1966 or 67. Who name was Lisa Ann Bullard but is now Lisa Dade or Birch living in Grand Junction Co. She would be 55 years old. Parents were Mike and Rochelle Bullard. Thank you #9
Chloe - 1 week ago
Well alot happened in my child hood keeping my younger siblings fed at only age 5 with domestic violence and drugs in the house we was neglected amingst other issues with my moms affair we was put into car me and my brother but the other two my sister and my ither brother were adopted shortly after living with my other sibling i really want to see the other two my brother whos one year younger i see him regulary actually once a week but i want to wait to see the other two who are adopted together i want to know the answers if they remeber me why the adoptive parents stop sending letters and i wanna know if they would search for me havent gave it much thinking but knowing there okay and a recent pictures all i want i have 4/5 years untill they are 18 and thas the age they can request to find real family i want some way of telling them that i have been waiting for a long time for them to find me and i want them to show up one day at my house like nothing happened over the years... 🙌 #10
Stephen Lee (Propps -adopted last name) - 1 year ago
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I found out recently that I have a twin sister. That I was born in Newport News, Virginia. My adopted mother will not share any info. Did find out birth mother was a Shirley Rouse. I need to locate the hospital in which we were born. I want to find my sister. #11
James Kurowski - 1 year ago
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In search of who ever put me up for adoption? :) My name is James. I was born on Christmas eve December 24th 1979.. I live in (NW) Indiana area I am 37yrs. I was adopted by the time I was 3.. I am hearing impaired very intelligent though. :) I resemble woody harralson some what. lol I am just if you are out there please contact me.. #12
kimberly scull - 1 year ago
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I am in search for my daughter she was taken from me when she was 6 months old..I went to jail and DCF took her and then they took my rights..I want nothing more to know how my daughter is doing and Wjat she looks like..As far as I knew she stayed in Sprjnghill but not sure where she might be now all I know if I just need some closure.I didnt do anything to be taken away from my Madison I just made a bad choice....So hopefully one day everything will l #13
Julia - 1 year ago
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I am searching for my brith family. I don't know my birthday and my age. I have been a great mark, singer and dancing too. I am looking for brith mom, dad and siblings. I have been a good listening at school. I don't know where I was born. I have be a great mature at school and at my home too. I always do my work and pay attention at school. I always pass my work at school. #14
justine - 1 year ago
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my parents tell me that i am adopted andi dont knw if they are playing i just need to knw #15
Nathaniel - 20 hours ago
We Got Separated when I was 5 years old Can't Rember Much But I have a step dad so my dad and mom could of divorced Which Expains Everything And My Step brother Is Very Mean And we share nothing in common it makes life very difficult for me and I am very unhappy there with them I hate them even planned to run away from our house. #16
Patricia - 2 days ago
I am searching for a half-sister. My mother told me today she placed a baby for adoption in December of 1956 or 57 in Milwaukee. My mother is white, the baby girl is black and possibly Hispanic. today my half-sister would be approximately 60 years old. #17
Nifessha Chamberlain - 2 days ago
I'm looking for my adopted brother. His first name is LJ, last name is unknown but I believe that it might be Morris. He was born on January 14th, 1989, according to my mother it was an open adoption. His birth mother's name is Earlene Chamberlain. I would love to be reunited with him. Please help #18
Chris Wolfe - 1 year ago
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I am searching in hopes to reunite someday with my half brother. My mom posted on here back in 2004 this was her post:8/29/68 looking for son My name is Kathleen A. Gibbons Wolfe. My son was born in St. Vincents Maternity Home, West Philadelphia. His date of bith was 8/29/68. My father has recently told me that my son who I named Mark Anthony Gibbons might have been placed to a couple in NJ. Saint Vincents Maternity home has been closed. The records are at Holy Family Center, 227 N 18th St., Philadelphia, PA 19103. I am working thru getting all the waivers of confidentiality signed with the home and PA Division of Vital Records and with The Holy Family Center. If you can be of any help please respond. It is very difficult knowing that I have no rights. I pray he is looking for me. It is his right if he wants to find me that he be given the necessary information June 7,2004 7:40 pm. My mom is the sweetest lady on the planet, her father supervised the decision. #19
susan - 1 year ago
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I am searching for my son. Born Charles Brannon Skipper on September 9, 1976 in Rochester, Indiana. I was 14 when I became pregnant, 15 when I gave birth.. I was able to keep him for 9 months before putting him up for adoption. I had no parents (grew up in a children's home.. where I lived until the age of 12) I was living with my oldest brother and his wife at the time of my pregnancy and was a "ward of the court". I never gave birth to any other children and would love to meet my son, if only once before I die... I lived most of my life in Peru, Indiana..... I now live in Canada. He may have been adopted to a family in Tennessee.. not sure...My name at birth was Susan Skipper.. it is now Susan McCoy. #20

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