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Beginning an adoption reunion search can be the start to an emotionally difficult, yet rewarding journey. The first step is the biggest step you'll take. Deciding to begin your search and reunion journey commonly requires dedication, perseverance, and emotional and mental fortitude. Some of those who search find who they're looking for right away while others can search for years without success. Unfortunately, there isn't a way to know which category you'll fall into before you begin the process. However, even if success isn't met right away, the journey holds a lot of other benefits and advantages, including a better understanding of yourself and your life experiences.

Once you've decided to start your search, you will then have to decide how you're going to move forward. For starters, it's possible that the agency used to facilitate the adoption offers post-adoption services that include a registry or third party intermediary who will attempt to locate and contact the member of the triad you are searching for.

You can also search online directories that aren't related to a specific agency. Many of these online directories are free, including the Adoption.com Reunion Registry. Because of the modernity and popularity of social networking sites, that's a great place to start, too. Of course, these methods will only work if you already have identifying information about that person. You could also use the expertise of professional searchers, who do cost money, or search angels, who are free to work with. There are so many different ways to start and continue your reunion search, but you don't have to choose only one method. Why not try them all?

Often, services available through agencies or professional searchers do cost money, as mentioned above, so it's important to research the services you are investigating before taking that first step. Becoming active in online adoption communities will allow you to speak to others who may have used the services you are considering or it may lead you in a whole different direction altogether. However, it might be best to start with the free resources before moving on to the paid ones.

Once you've started your search, you'll want to begin the preparation for a possible reunion. It's important to keep your expectations of the relationship low and take things one step at a time. This is because you don't want to get your hopes up, have the reunion fail in some way, and become devastated. Keeping expectations low or expectations open and pliable means that you can get back up and keep trying until you're happy with the results. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and leap forward while emotions are high. However, taking time to ease into the relationship and build a strong foundation is important in the very first stages.

Try to keep communication light and easy until you've gotten to know the person a little better. Once you've gotten to know your adopted child or birth parent, you can then start to address the emotional topics, which will inevitably come up.

The reunion journey is an exciting one, even with all the bumps and hurdles along the way. Remember that every journey will be different, so try not to compare your reunion journey with others. Focus on your goal and your progression, and you'll soon be able to reconnect and reunite!

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Joann - 12 months ago
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I have searched for my birth mother for almost 20 years. She found me two days ago. I am on every adoption registry site, and she found me through Facebook. I had an amazing adoptive family, but the hole in my heart is now gone. I have a huge family that has searched for me for 36 years!! I have pictures and now know where I got my eyes and my hair and my smile from. It's amazing to finally see people who look like me. I have so much in common with my new family. Never stop looking. Don't give up. It's not all sunshine and roses, but knowing where I come from and the support from my adoptive family has made my life complete. #1
j - 9 months ago
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Please if you were adopted some of the times it is for the right reason. I did give my daughter up for adoption hoping for better than I could provide.... now I find it hard debating to open a can of worms and stir up feelings finding her or that if I do find her it will be very good...in my case if you give up a child for the right reason very heavy guilt and constant pain .. never gets easier only harder ,, every year every holdiday ever birthday, every day period #2
Debi - 5 months ago
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I would like to help my sister-in-law find her adopted child that was adopted in Ohio back in the 50's or 60's. She left her child with her family members while she looked for a job and when she returned they had adopted her out. What is the best way for me to do this? #3
Danielle - 9 months ago
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i am trying to find my sister. my mother gave her up for adoption when she was born and i would like to find her as a surprise for my mother. just wondering on how i go about this ? help please. #4
Guest - 9 months ago
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Looking for birth father from East Bay Area California. I was born feb 1....1975 in Alameda and had a closed adoption. Need health information, please . Greatly appreciate any news. #5
Lisa - 9 months ago
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My boyfriend (now husband) and I gave up for adoption our twin sons at birth in 1978. On July 17, 2013, we found one of the twins on this site. Five days later, and living only 45 minutes apart, we were joyously reunited with him, his wife, and two children (our grandchildren!). We were so happy to hear that the twins were raised together but learned that his brother had moved to Arizona eight years earlier. So on December 6, 2013, we flew to Arizona to meet him, his wife, and their two children (more grandchildren!). The twins were especially thrilled to find out that they have two younger full-blood brothers who share in their excitement, and their relationship is flourishing. It's been a mutual feeling of elation to be reunited, our love is growing by the day, and we are so excited to be living out the remainder of our lives together. I encourage you to keep the faith, don't ever give up searching, and hope will find a way. #6
Susan - 4 weeks ago
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I've been looking for my biologicla brother who was adopted into another home for over 10 years now...ive sent out flyers on gfacebook and still have no contact with him...it's hard and emotionally draining anmd I find myself holding my heart because I feel a little empoty without knowing who he is,m if he's okay if I will ever meet hiim...I've had no luck and every day it seems harder and harder and further and further away from reach....I haven o one I know that is also adopted or reunited ewith family...I don't know any way to start or how to go about anything....i need help and each day it's less and less easy to find a path to go on... #7
Sara - 5 months ago
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emotional journey feels like an understatement. I am registered everywhere, and haven't found even the smallest clue. I feel like a ghost, a whisper through the wind. But I hold onto the hope that you are searching for me to. I just want a glimpse at eyes that mirror mine. Sorry I am trying to remain positive and not trying to come across as negative, and reading all your positive comments gives me hope. #8
Megan Pierson - 3 months ago
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Yesterday was my dad's birthday.. It really had me Thinking whether or not she's out here looking for us? Which really there's not many days that go by that I'm not thinking about it. Maybe it's best not to know her, like a mysterious part in our heads the way we would imagine her.. A woman we might look up to.. Or she could be woman we wouldn't be proud to a accept.. So maybe it's best that we never met.. So I can put all these imaginations in my head of how an incredible woman she is.. And that I'm just like her in some ways.. To push myself to be the best that I can be! But a part of me is missing... A grandma I never got to meet. A family I never got to know. Apart of her is in me.. In my blood, running through my veins.. I am her.. So I hope one day, she'll have enough courage to meet all of us.. Cause we sure want to meet her!(: to get a restart on life.. Like finally the question all of has been wondering/ asking.. Is finally answered without hesitation. #9
Tracey - 1 week ago
I am searching for a half-sibling, born November 1969 in York County, Pennsylvania. Mother's name at birth: Patricia Rauch; Father's name at birth: Richard F. Regina. I would be a younger sister. Have always wondered where you are? Who you are? It's hard knowing there is a birth sister/brother out there . . . #10
Michael - 4 months ago
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Male born on September 21, 1985 in Jacksonville, Florida (I think) and processed through The Children's Home Society. Supposedly my mother died before my adoption finalized in October 1985. I was told she was beaten and fell into a coma from which she never awoke. I may have two half brothers through her. I have completed 23andMe.com and found that I am largely British-Irish with hints of Polish-Russian. Contact: xxxx This is the beginning of my journey, and it already feels like the end. The Florida statutes protect the biological parents like I'm a piece of irrelevant chattel without a say in the matter. Closed adoption laws are so inhumane to adult adoptees. The very nature of human behavior and instinct is to look to your history for enlightenment. Hence, the wide popularity of archaeology and genealogy. It's human nature to investigate the past. Legislatures should be ashamed of their decisions to seal off all identifying information to adoptees. #11
Alice Alvarez - 10 months ago
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Hi iam new at this but i had to try iam not sure if this is the way i should start but i had to start somewhere. Iam looking for my two boys Iam not sure if there names were changed but the birth names are Jusin Francisco Alvarez jr. and Christopher Francisco Alvarez jr.. They were born Dec12,1998 and May 11,2002.I the birth mother Alice Alvarez lost my as far as i know My kids were born in San Antonio Tx. If anyone sees this and you know about my kids please let me know. I just want to know how there doing i understand if they wouldnt want to meet there birth mom.My kids were adopted to a family in Mc,Callen Tx. Thank you very much. #12
Bobbie - 10 months ago
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I'm a birth mother ... My son was born in Oakland, Ca.. Feb 9th 1964 ..You called me Your name is Gary ..Gary when you called me I was in shock ..But I loved hearing from you.... Please call me again ... I was so young when you were born ..There fore I had no choice but to adopt you to a family who could give you more than I could had ever. I have always thought about you and have loved you all my life and always will.. please call me again .. I am sorry that I could not meet you with your half sisters ..Call me and I can try to explain why .... I hope the information I gave you helped .. I hope you were able to find your birth father Steve ... Please call me again ... How I wish I had talked more to you ..But with our conversation it felt as if I was talking to a long tine friend .... thank you so much for reaching out to me ..I'm sure it was a shocking to hear my voice for the first time.. as it was for me to hear yours ...I will always be there for you if you want ... Love Bobbie #13
Andrea - 8 hours ago
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The short story is that I was born in Kew Gardens Hospital in Queens, NY on July 4 1959. As a little girl I'd ask for my sister and get glares from my mother. Then as a teenager I was always told there's this girl, yes! named Andrea who'd frequent the same places as I. We even went to the same college where her professor would reprimand me for cutting his business class. I was a Nursing major and am an RN. We'd frequent the same stores even one day she had just left the pool supply store and I'd enter the same n within 3 minutes of her departure. The manager of the store was teasing me, "Now what'd you forget, Andrea"!"Fortunately the Asst Manager took notice she #14
santos ramos - 18 hours ago
Greetings to everyone that is reading my post,I pray that my post will help the needy,I am santos ramos,I live in california usa,with all due respect i want to thank dr. Latifat for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family,I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is real and genuine,I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my girlfriend, I required help until i found xxxx, A great spell caster, And he cast a love spell for me, and he assured me that I will get my girlfriend back in just 72hours after the spell has been cast,three days later,my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was the love of my life who has not called me for past few months now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that she is ready to be by side,she is ready to be a good,caring and lovely girlfriend,she said she is also ready to spend the rest of her life with me,dr. Latifat released him, to know how much i loved and wanted her,And she also opened he #15
jodie Harwood - desiree's aunt - 1 day ago
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Hi, I've been looking now For a long time For my niece Desiree Marie Ann (Hamilton) though last name iis different because she was adopted in Indiana around 2005 . Me And her Mom is looking For her. We miss her very much. I'm her aunt jodie. Any Info please contact me by email at (xxxx) I have facebook And twitter. (Jodie Harwood-johnson) she's welcome to contact me. I keep adding all these desiree's thinking one of them is her but nothing yet!! I'm still heartbroken that I haven't seen her since she was almost 9yrs Old And she's 18 yrs Old now. She was born 1/8/96 in (southbend/mishawaka,indiana) she may be in Indiana And she may not still be in Indiana. #16
Donna - 2 days ago
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I am searching for my son that I gave up for adoption at the time of his birth. He was born in September 1968 in a Santa Monica CA .hospital. It would have been a closed adoption that allowed no information on the birth mother to be released. Being very young with no help, no family around made things pretty tough and I made the decision to do what I thought was best for my son. I was assured that wonderful people, a minister/pastor and his wife,that wanted a baby terribly, would provide him with a secure, safe, loving home. I named my child Robert Alexander Chambless but do not know what his name may have been changed to. I hope that he might be looking for me as I am looking for him. #17
Shanika Powell - 5 days ago
I'm the birth mother of two kids. My daughter name is Alexis she's now 16 was born October 9,1998. And my son is name Treondre he is 14 was born June 30, 2000. I'm looking for them they was taking from me in a custody battle. In the state of Elizabeth City, North Carolina. I love and miss them so much. I pray everyday I will see them. They have other sibling I want them to meet. I pray someone see this in contact me onFacebook. I love u Alexis and Treondre never stop thinking about y'all. Expectly around holiday and birthday. I get really depressed around those time but I truly love and miss y'all. #18
Nathan - 5 days ago
My name is Nathan Weisel and I am 49 years old looking for Birth Parents. According to Non-Identifying Information from Lutheran Social Services, My DOB is 09/17/1966 and I was born in St. Paul (Ramsey County), MN at the Salvation Army Booth Memorial Hospital. I was adopted on 11/18/1966. Birth Mother was 17 years of age and single at the time of birth. Her nationality is a combination of French, German and Slavik. She was approximately 5'31/2" tall. She had a rather dark complexion with brown hair and brown eyes. Birth Mother's Parents - Divorced and each had been remarried at time of birth. Birth Mother had 3 full siblings; brother 6'2" tall with brown eyes and hair, in the Armed Services at time of birth. A Sister, completed 11 grade and was married; and a second sister in late teens and was married. Birth Father approximately 23 years of age and single. His nationality is a combination of Norwegian, English and Slovak. He is ~ 5'4" tallwith brown hair, brown eyes and average #19
Melanie - 6 days ago
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I am a 28 year old African American woman I was born 12/07/1985. In Buffalo NY at Buffalo General Hospital I was put up for adoption through Catholic Charities agency. I was told the reason I was given up was because my birth mother was young she was in school and she already had a kid so I know I could possibly have biological siblings out there somewhere I would like to get to know. I would also like to know any family health history or concerns. I was told Melanie was the name I was given when I was born so if this story sounds familiar please reach out and we can start with baby steps on getting to know one another #20
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