Adoption Search & Reunion

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Beginning an adoption reunion search can be the start to an emotionally difficult, yet rewarding journey. The first step is the biggest step you'll take. Deciding to begin your search and reunion journey commonly requires dedication, perseverance, and emotional and mental fortitude. Some of those who search find who they're looking for right away while others can search for years without success. Unfortunately, there isn't a way to know which category you'll fall into before you begin the process. However, even if success isn't met right away, the journey holds a lot of other benefits and advantages, including a better understanding of yourself and your life experiences.

Once you've decided to start your search, you will then have to decide how you're going to move forward. For starters, it's possible that the agency used to facilitate the adoption offers post-adoption services that include a registry or third party intermediary who will attempt to locate and contact the member of the triad you are searching for.

You can also search online directories that aren't related to a specific agency. Many of these online directories are free, including the Reunion Registry. Because of the modernity and popularity of social networking sites, that's a great place to start, too. Of course, these methods will only work if you already have identifying information about that person. You could also use the expertise of professional searchers, who do cost money, or search angels, who are free to work with. There are so many different ways to start and continue your reunion search, but you don't have to choose only one method. Why not try them all?

Often, services available through agencies or professional searchers do cost money, as mentioned above, so it's important to research the services you are investigating before taking that first step. Becoming active in online adoption communities will allow you to speak to others who may have used the services you are considering or it may lead you in a whole different direction altogether. However, it might be best to start with the free resources before moving on to the paid ones.

Once you've started your search, you'll want to begin the preparation for a possible reunion. It's important to keep your expectations of the relationship low and take things one step at a time. This is because you don't want to get your hopes up, have the reunion fail in some way, and become devastated. Keeping expectations low or expectations open and pliable means that you can get back up and keep trying until you're happy with the results. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and leap forward while emotions are high. However, taking time to ease into the relationship and build a strong foundation is important in the very first stages.

Try to keep communication light and easy until you've gotten to know the person a little better. Once you've gotten to know your adopted child or birth parent, you can then start to address the emotional topics, which will inevitably come up.

The reunion journey is an exciting one, even with all the bumps and hurdles along the way. Remember that every journey will be different, so try not to compare your reunion journey with others. Focus on your goal and your progression, and you'll soon be able to reconnect and reunite!

Adoption Reunion Discussions

Adoption Reunion Blogs

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First and foremost, let me say this: I was blessed with wonderful siblings! I'm not talking about my natural siblings, I'm talking about my...
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All Adoptees Please Post Here!
May 5, 2015, 8:34 am
Born Jan 3rd 1983 in Tulsa Oklahoma. Biological Mothers name right now is Susan Flagg and she graduated in 1980 from Weleetka Highschool.
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May 4, 2015, 5:12 pm
I submitted information to PAIR (Pennsylvania Adoption Information Registry), and surprise! No info available. The letter recommends...
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So its been 13 years since you posted this and I just found it while doing a family search. I was also looking for info on St. Marys...
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j - 1 year ago
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Please if you were adopted some of the times it is for the right reason. I did give my daughter up for adoption hoping for better than I could provide.... now I find it hard debating to open a can of worms and stir up feelings finding her or that if I do find her it will be very my case if you give up a child for the right reason very heavy guilt and constant pain .. never gets easier only harder ,, every year every holdiday ever birthday, every day period #1
Debi - 1 year ago
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I would like to help my sister-in-law find her adopted child that was adopted in Ohio back in the 50's or 60's. She left her child with her family members while she looked for a job and when she returned they had adopted her out. What is the best way for me to do this? #2
Danielle - 1 year ago
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i am trying to find my sister. my mother gave her up for adoption when she was born and i would like to find her as a surprise for my mother. just wondering on how i go about this ? help please. #3
Susan - 8 months ago
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I've been looking for my biologicla brother who was adopted into another home for over 10 years now...ive sent out flyers on gfacebook and still have no contact with's hard and emotionally draining anmd I find myself holding my heart because I feel a little empoty without knowing who he is,m if he's okay if I will ever meet hiim...I've had no luck and every day it seems harder and harder and further and further away from reach....I haven o one I know that is also adopted or reunited ewith family...I don't know any way to start or how to go about anything....i need help and each day it's less and less easy to find a path to go on... #4
Heather - 6 months ago
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My name is Heather Brode Maiden name is Hershberger. I was born in Barberton Ohio at Barberton Citizen Hospital on 8/18/85 at 9:00 a.m. by a Dr Mohamed Dabbas.. When I have searched my birthday along with the town and hospital I have a number that comes up and a name "Laurie Gregory" Ive been told that could be my mothers name or it could be what they would of named me When I've talked to other people. I dont have much information. My papers have said that both my parents were 23 at the time of my birth and that my father was booked in the summit county jail in Ohio on the day of my birth. The description I have gotten is my mother is a medium height with sandy brown hair and a speech impediment and the only description of my father that is recorded is that he appeared somewhat "Dull"..It also states that I have two brothers,It says that my eldest brother is two years and 10 months older and my other brother is 23 months older.. I am just looking for someone in the family #5
Melanie - 7 months ago
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I am a 28 year old African American woman I was born 12/07/1985. In Buffalo NY at Buffalo General Hospital I was put up for adoption through Catholic Charities agency. I was told the reason I was given up was because my birth mother was young she was in school and she already had a kid so I know I could possibly have biological siblings out there somewhere I would like to get to know. I would also like to know any family health history or concerns. I was told Melanie was the name I was given when I was born so if this story sounds familiar please reach out and we can start with baby steps on getting to know one another #6
Denise - 7 months ago
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I have searched for my birth parents for 30 years with the blessing of my adoptive parents (both are gone now). I know my DNA, and found 3-4 cousins this way but have had no luck in figuring out who my parents are. Private adoption with a lawyer. I was told my mother was 28 when she had me. She was 5' 6" dark hair grey eyes, Father was blonde 6". I was born in Seneca, Oconee County, South Carolina, 6 lbs, 6 ounces at birth - when my adoptive parents came to pick me up at Seneca Hospital, the nurse said "Come see baby Denice" Uncanny that I had been named Denise Elaine by my adoptive parents and Karen Denice by my birth mother. #7
Megan Pierson - 10 months ago
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Yesterday was my dad's birthday.. It really had me Thinking whether or not she's out here looking for us? Which really there's not many days that go by that I'm not thinking about it. Maybe it's best not to know her, like a mysterious part in our heads the way we would imagine her.. A woman we might look up to.. Or she could be woman we wouldn't be proud to a accept.. So maybe it's best that we never met.. So I can put all these imaginations in my head of how an incredible woman she is.. And that I'm just like her in some ways.. To push myself to be the best that I can be! But a part of me is missing... A grandma I never got to meet. A family I never got to know. Apart of her is in me.. In my blood, running through my veins.. I am her.. So I hope one day, she'll have enough courage to meet all of us.. Cause we sure want to meet her!(: to get a restart on life.. Like finally the question all of has been wondering/ asking.. Is finally answered without hesitation. #8
Michael - 11 months ago
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Male born on September 21, 1985 in Jacksonville, Florida (I think) and processed through The Children's Home Society. Supposedly my mother died before my adoption finalized in October 1985. I was told she was beaten and fell into a coma from which she never awoke. I may have two half brothers through her. I have completed and found that I am largely British-Irish with hints of Polish-Russian. Contact: xxxx This is the beginning of my journey, and it already feels like the end. The Florida statutes protect the biological parents like I'm a piece of irrelevant chattel without a say in the matter. Closed adoption laws are so inhumane to adult adoptees. The very nature of human behavior and instinct is to look to your history for enlightenment. Hence, the wide popularity of archaeology and genealogy. It's human nature to investigate the past. Legislatures should be ashamed of their decisions to seal off all identifying information to adoptees. #9
Paula - 4 months ago
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Hello! I am looking for my birth family who I think still resides in Miami Florida. I was born 09/03/87 at Jackson Memorial Hospital in Miami. My sister Nicole was born on 08/11/1988. We were adopted together. I have recently just started my search for my family, but I have already found a listing that a women put up stating that she is looking for us. My mother's name is Cheryl Darlene Penn. I don't know anymore information than that, but I am on facebook as Paula Brown if whoever is looking for me happens to see this. #10
Brittany - 10 months ago
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Looking for my brother. His birthday is 1-6-86 he was adopted out of catholic family services in Oklahoma city. If you have any information, please contact me. I've been trying to find him for years. Help to find him is greatly appreciated. I feel as if I have an empty space in my life that only he can fill. Please help. #11
racheal - 3 days ago
my name is racheal castillo i want to share a testimony about a spell caster who was introduced to me by a friend. the name of the spell caster is Dr bram ajar, he helped me bring my ex back to me in 3days after i have tender my problems to him..he is such a good spell caster that he will check if the spell will work before casting cos he told me not all human spells work for..Dr bram ajar is such a trustworthy person and i also recommend him to make those sad happy using this medium to once again thank Dr bram ajar for making me happy again and i know many are out there who want their ex back if you have tried and fail here is Dr bram ajar to make you him on xxxx #12
Leroy Treece - 4 days ago
Hello to the world i am Leroy..i want to say that Dr Bully the mighty spell caster from India. He is the only spell caster that can help you solve your problem in 48 hours...after passing through a lot of problems in my marriage, i contacted Dr Bully Shrine in Mumbai India and in 48 hours, my wife who we were divorced for 4 years is back to me for ever...Dr Bully is highly spiritual and can never disappoint you in any problem. No matter what type of Relationship, Marital, Getting Pregnant, Want a Baby,Court Case and disease you have, he is definitely the best answer for you in 48 hours...his Temple address in Mumbai is 33-D, Gitanjali, Plot 52, Sector 17, Vashi, Navi Mumbai India.. and his Email address is xxxx he is the solution to your problem..once again the temple email address is xxxx can also add him on facebook as Kareem Abhida or his page on facebook Dr BULLY Temple"".. #13
Bob - 2 weeks ago
Last of 23 adopted siblings found after 57 year long search Hello I am sending you a link about a Chicago WGN radio interview with a story about a family of 23 siblings separated in 1958 after the death of their Mother. All the children were adopted to different families all over the USA from coast to coast . Now , after 57 years of searching they have finally, just three weeks ago, located the last lost sister . Frances Livingston Cantrell who was a student at WEST FULTON HIGH SCHOOL IN N.W. ATLANTA up until 1959 and was raised in Atlanta and lived in the Atlanta / Marietta area up until her death in 1993. The family was disappointed that she was no longer alive, but was able to contact her two children, Curtis and Phyllis, and her husband, me, Bob Cantrell. Can you even imagine how hard, how dedicated the family was, and how much effort they have extended to have looked for that long a period of time to locate their one last sister of the 23. Please take a look and listen #14
Roslyn - 4 weeks ago
On the 20th September 1969 I had a daughter in Crown Street Women's Hospital in Sydney. As I was still a minor, my parents forced me to sign adoption papers. I have since applied for and received a copy of her birth certificate which gives her name as Jacqueline Ruth Hefferan. Assuming there is no miss spelling on this document. She would now be 45 years. The father, Paul Christopher Brown, claimed to have made enquiries in the early 80s but I am not sure what the outcome of those enquiries were. If Jacqueline or anyone knowing her reads this, please ask her to contact me. My name in 1969 was Turner. My current email address is xxxx #15
Alexis - 1 month ago
So, I have been trying to find my dads real parents for a while. If I could find his mother, it would mean so much. - I'm looking for a woman probably between 53-55 years old, had my dad when she was in her teens. - Had a baby that was born on April 14, 1977 - Gave up her baby for adoption. - Child was born at Memorial Hospital in Jacksonville, Fl - I believe that the birth mother, or father may still be in Jacksonville. - If you all could, please share this around and if anyone has any information please send me a message, this means so much to me and I have been trying to look for so long. If you have sat and read this far, thank you so much for even reading. #16
elizabeth - 2 months ago
I found out 5 days before my 51 st birthday that i have terminal cancer and only have a short time to live and I would like to find my daughters who were known as christine sapp snyder,jennifer a snyder and tiffani augustine snyder.they were adopted in sunbury penn and went to school i think in coal township.the caseworkers told me my girls were adopted together but im not sure of that because my oldest christine was a special child so i dk if they would put her in a home and forget about her and if that is the case i want to bring her home and get her help #17
looking to find my mother - 2 months ago
I am looking for my boyfriend he was adopted around 6 yrs of age along with his brother his name at birth was Louis Gill and his brothers name was Brian Gill. Louis was born 8/4/1978 in Hialeah FL and his brother Brian was born 08/20/1979 in California he does not know either his mothers or fathers name all he knows is Brians fathers last name was givin to him he was adopted out of childrens home society in homestead fl he would desperately like to find his parents and maybe if he has some more siblings out there somewhere if you know anything please contact us at xxxx #18
Veteran searching for TWINS - 2 months ago
Searching for my twins... By Allen Thomas My name is Allen Thomas and I am looking for my son and daughter, whom I've not seen since they were lost to me over 40 years ago. I was an American soldier in South Korea, met and married their mother, had our twins, and then lost them when I had to return stateside and she would not return with me, or allow me to take the children. By the time I was able to make arrangements to go back for the children and fight for custody, she had adopted them out and would not give me any information regarding their whereabouts. I have been searching for decades, unsuccessfully; but have decided that perhaps Facebook could help me to find them. Please pass this around and help me find my children. Thank you. Fraternal twins – boy #19
Susan - 2 months ago
I am looking for a half sister my gave up for adoption around 1957/1958. I know her first name is Marie but that is all I know. She made contact with my mom back in the last 70s. But it was a brief encounter. Not sure what happened there as we never talked about it. I only found out when there were flowers delivered to our house with a letter. My mom was not home at the time and so I called her to let her know. She told me to read the letter and it started out Dear Mom and ended with Love Marie. I have no memory of what the letter said as I was in shock as to find this out the way I did. That is all I know and I have no idea as to how to go about looking for her. #20
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