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Beginning an adoption reunion search can be the start to an emotionally difficult, yet rewarding journey. The first step is the biggest step you'll take. Deciding to begin your search and reunion journey commonly requires dedication, perseverance, and emotional and mental fortitude. Some of those who search find who they're looking for right away while others can search for years without success. Unfortunately, there isn't a way to know which category you'll fall into before you begin the process. However, even if success isn't met right away, the journey holds a lot of other benefits and advantages, including a better understanding of yourself and your life experiences.

Once you've decided to start your search, you will then have to decide how you're going to move forward. For starters, it's possible that the agency used to facilitate the adoption offers post-adoption services that include a registry or third party intermediary who will attempt to locate and contact the member of the triad you are searching for.

You can also search online directories that aren't related to a specific agency. Many of these online directories are free, including the Adoption.com Reunion Registry. Because of the modernity and popularity of social networking sites, that's a great place to start, too. Of course, these methods will only work if you already have identifying information about that person. You could also use the expertise of professional searchers, who do cost money, or search angels, who are free to work with. There are so many different ways to start and continue your reunion search, but you don't have to choose only one method. Why not try them all?

Often, services available through agencies or professional searchers do cost money, as mentioned above, so it's important to research the services you are investigating before taking that first step. Becoming active in online adoption communities will allow you to speak to others who may have used the services you are considering or it may lead you in a whole different direction altogether. However, it might be best to start with the free resources before moving on to the paid ones.

Once you've started your search, you'll want to begin the preparation for a possible reunion. It's important to keep your expectations of the relationship low and take things one step at a time. This is because you don't want to get your hopes up, have the reunion fail in some way, and become devastated. Keeping expectations low or expectations open and pliable means that you can get back up and keep trying until you're happy with the results. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and leap forward while emotions are high. However, taking time to ease into the relationship and build a strong foundation is important in the very first stages.

Try to keep communication light and easy until you've gotten to know the person a little better. Once you've gotten to know your adopted child or birth parent, you can then start to address the emotional topics, which will inevitably come up.

The reunion journey is an exciting one, even with all the bumps and hurdles along the way. Remember that every journey will be different, so try not to compare your reunion journey with others. Focus on your goal and your progression, and you'll soon be able to reconnect and reunite!

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January 11, 2014, 11:16 am
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January 15, 2014, 8:58 am
First and foremost, let me say this: I was blessed with wonderful siblings! I'm not talking about my natural siblings, I'm talking about my...
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Adoption Reunion Forums

St Mary's Hospital Syracuse Ny
May 3, 2015, 10:40 am
So its been 13 years since you posted this and I just found it while doing a family search. I was also looking for info on St. Marys...
Frustrated & Uncertain --- How to Proceed?
May 2, 2015, 8:49 pm
I contacted my birthson several years ago. He responded that he wasn't angry at me but not quite ready to meet up. I imagined weeks maybe...
Looking for Beverly Niemi
May 1, 2015, 11:54 am
Hello - I just found your posting - sorry it has taken 10 years! I hope that your mother-in-law is still searching for her birth mother....
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Debi - 10 months ago
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I would like to help my sister-in-law find her adopted child that was adopted in Ohio back in the 50's or 60's. She left her child with her family members while she looked for a job and when she returned they had adopted her out. What is the best way for me to do this? #1
Susan - 6 months ago
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I've been looking for my biologicla brother who was adopted into another home for over 10 years now...ive sent out flyers on gfacebook and still have no contact with him...it's hard and emotionally draining anmd I find myself holding my heart because I feel a little empoty without knowing who he is,m if he's okay if I will ever meet hiim...I've had no luck and every day it seems harder and harder and further and further away from reach....I haven o one I know that is also adopted or reunited ewith family...I don't know any way to start or how to go about anything....i need help and each day it's less and less easy to find a path to go on... #2
sharon - 4 months ago
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i am new on here but looking for a daughter born at parkway regional aka atlanta west hospital in lithia springs georgia. child was born in 1987 or 1988. due to some unusual circumstances unsure of any exact date. the adoption was done through a private attorney that i was told knew the family . i think the family had other adopted kids? and may have lived in carrollton or villa rica area #3
Melanie - 5 months ago
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I am a 28 year old African American woman I was born 12/07/1985. In Buffalo NY at Buffalo General Hospital I was put up for adoption through Catholic Charities agency. I was told the reason I was given up was because my birth mother was young she was in school and she already had a kid so I know I could possibly have biological siblings out there somewhere I would like to get to know. I would also like to know any family health history or concerns. I was told Melanie was the name I was given when I was born so if this story sounds familiar please reach out and we can start with baby steps on getting to know one another #4
Denise - 5 months ago
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I have searched for my birth parents for 30 years with the blessing of my adoptive parents (both are gone now). I know my DNA, and found 3-4 cousins this way but have had no luck in figuring out who my parents are. Private adoption with a lawyer. I was told my mother was 28 when she had me. She was 5' 6" dark hair grey eyes, Father was blonde 6". I was born in Seneca, Oconee County, South Carolina, 6 lbs, 6 ounces at birth - when my adoptive parents came to pick me up at Seneca Hospital, the nurse said "Come see baby Denice" Uncanny that I had been named Denise Elaine by my adoptive parents and Karen Denice by my birth mother. #5
Megan Pierson - 8 months ago
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Yesterday was my dad's birthday.. It really had me Thinking whether or not she's out here looking for us? Which really there's not many days that go by that I'm not thinking about it. Maybe it's best not to know her, like a mysterious part in our heads the way we would imagine her.. A woman we might look up to.. Or she could be woman we wouldn't be proud to a accept.. So maybe it's best that we never met.. So I can put all these imaginations in my head of how an incredible woman she is.. And that I'm just like her in some ways.. To push myself to be the best that I can be! But a part of me is missing... A grandma I never got to meet. A family I never got to know. Apart of her is in me.. In my blood, running through my veins.. I am her.. So I hope one day, she'll have enough courage to meet all of us.. Cause we sure want to meet her!(: to get a restart on life.. Like finally the question all of has been wondering/ asking.. Is finally answered without hesitation. #6
Tracy Jones - 1 month ago
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Unimaginable and unbelievable. I am Tracy Jones from the United States and i have a good news to share to the entire world. Do you need your ex husband or lover urgently? I wanna tell you that you need not to worry because i have a good news for those out there that are faced or similar to such situation because there is always a hope and a solution to all problem. There is a great spell caster called Dr Eku who can really solve your problem. Getting my lover back is what i can't imagine but when I was losing Newton, I needed help and somewhere to turn badly but my Aunty told me about this spell caster who also helped her on the internet. I thought it won't work but i just tried to give this man a chance and i ordered a LOVE SPELL. Two days later, my phone rang. Newton was his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not only come back, the spell caster opened him up to know how much I loved and needed him. This Spell Casting isn’t brainwashing, but he opened up his eyes to know #7
Kimberley - 1 month ago
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Hi, i am Kimberley. And i am sharing this testimony with the whole world, on how i got my ex husband back within 48 hours, by the help of the amazing Dr. Love Shrine. After 2 years and 3 months in marriage with my husband kyle. He left me and our little boy shaw, for another lady. I did all i could to get him back, but they all proved abortive. Until one faithful day, an old friend of mine Sarah, told me about Dr. Love Shrine, who helped her in a similar issue. At first, i doubted it, but later on, i decided to give it a try. When i did, he helped me cast a re-union lover's spell. And within 48 hours, my husband came back, pleading and apologizing to me. And right now, we are very happy together, with abundant love, joy and riches. You too can contact this amazing spell caster right now, on any issue that you are having on his email: xxxx Thank you so much great one, i won't forget your amazing works. Love and regards, Kimberley Logan, London, UK. #8
Michael - 9 months ago
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Male born on September 21, 1985 in Jacksonville, Florida (I think) and processed through The Children's Home Society. Supposedly my mother died before my adoption finalized in October 1985. I was told she was beaten and fell into a coma from which she never awoke. I may have two half brothers through her. I have completed 23andMe.com and found that I am largely British-Irish with hints of Polish-Russian. Contact: xxxx This is the beginning of my journey, and it already feels like the end. The Florida statutes protect the biological parents like I'm a piece of irrelevant chattel without a say in the matter. Closed adoption laws are so inhumane to adult adoptees. The very nature of human behavior and instinct is to look to your history for enlightenment. Hence, the wide popularity of archaeology and genealogy. It's human nature to investigate the past. Legislatures should be ashamed of their decisions to seal off all identifying information to adoptees. #9
Brittany - 8 months ago
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Looking for my brother. His birthday is 1-6-86 he was adopted out of catholic family services in Oklahoma city. If you have any information, please contact me. I've been trying to find him for years. Help to find him is greatly appreciated. I feel as if I have an empty space in my life that only he can fill. Please help. #10
looking - 1 month ago
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birthmother has purchase an ancestry dna kit from ancestry dot com and then you can upload results to ged match, or family tree dna, 23 and me, looking for birthmother looking for adoptee born in Georgia 1987 or 1988 adoptee looking for birthmother looking for siblings douglas county Georgia lithia springs Georgia if any one wants to find family or answers through adoption a dna may be easiest respond back in visitor comments with: birthmother has purchased a dna kit #11
Heather - 4 months ago
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My name is Heather Brode Maiden name is Hershberger. I was born in Barberton Ohio at Barberton Citizen Hospital on 8/18/85 at 9:00 a.m. by a Dr Mohamed Dabbas.. When I have searched my birthday along with the town and hospital I have a number that comes up and a name "Laurie Gregory" Ive been told that could be my mothers name or it could be what they would of named me When I've talked to other people. I dont have much information. My papers have said that both my parents were 23 at the time of my birth and that my father was booked in the summit county jail in Ohio on the day of my birth. The description I have gotten is my mother is a medium height with sandy brown hair and a speech impediment and the only description of my father that is recorded is that he appeared somewhat "Dull"..It also states that I have two brothers,It says that my eldest brother is two years and 10 months older and my other brother is 23 months older.. I am just looking for someone in the family #12
steph morgan - 1 day ago
My name is Steph Morgan am from USA i am very happy for the wonderful work dr guru has done for me i got married to my lovely husband last year February and we have a lovely son. things was going well with us and we are living happily. until one day my husband started behaving in a strange manner i could not understand, i was very confused with the way he treat me and my son. later that month he did not come home again and he called me that he want a divorce, i asked him what have i done wrong to deserve this from him, all he was saying is that he want a divorce that he hate me and do not want to see me again in his life, i was sad and also frustrated i did not know what to do,i was sick for more than a week because of the divorce. i love him so much he his everything to me without him my life is incomplete. i told one of my child hood friend and she told me to contact a spell caster that she has listen to one woman who testify about dr guru and she has been hearing about him that i sh #13
Susan - 2 days ago
I am looking for a half sister my gave up for adoption around 1957/1958. I know her first name is Marie but that is all I know. She made contact with my mom back in the last 70s. But it was a brief encounter. Not sure what happened there as we never talked about it. I only found out when there were flowers delivered to our house with a letter. My mom was not home at the time and so I called her to let her know. She told me to read the letter and it started out Dear Mom and ended with Love Marie. I have no memory of what the letter said as I was in shock as to find this out the way I did. That is all I know and I have no idea as to how to go about looking for her. #14
helena hrms - 2 days ago
IMPORTANT MESSAGE TO ALL DOES WHO NEED A GREAT PRIVATE SPELL CASTER. My name is Helena Hrms from USA. I am here to give testimony on how I got my husband back, my husband left me for no reason 3 years ago. He moved in with another woman, I felt like killing myself, my life became very bitter and sorrowful. Then 1 day, a friend of mine told me about a great spell caster that is very good and she said that he told her all about her life history and the problem she is facing, i didn't believe it because I've worked with so many of them and it didn't work. She begged me further so I decided to try this great spell caster called DR. UDUKA. I still didn't believe, but inside me i wanted to give a try and as God will have it, i used the spell solution he gave me and the next day I received a call from my darling husband Thomas last month. He apologized and came back to me. He even gave me 10,000 USD as a means of compensating me. I'm very happy now with my family it worked for me and i belie #15
Tracy008 - 2 days ago
Unimaginable and unbelievable. I am Tracy Jones from the United States and i have a good news to share to the entire world. Do you need your ex husband or lover urgently? I wanna tell you that you need not to worry because i have a good news for those out there that are faced or similar to such situation because there is always a hope and a solution to all problem. There is a great spell caster called Dr Eku who can really solve your problem. Getting my lover back is what i can't imagine but when I was losing Newton, I needed help and somewhere to turn badly but my Aunty told me about this spell caster who also helped her on the internet. I thought it won't work but i just tried to give this man a chance and i ordered a LOVE SPELL. Two days later, my phone rang. Newton was his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not only come back, the spell caster opened him up to know how much I loved and needed him. This Spell Casting isn’t brainwashing, but he opened up his eyes to know #16
beatrice - 4 days ago
I am Beatrice Esther by name all thanks to (xxxx) THAT HELP ME SAVE MY RELATIONSHIP MY MAN OF FOUR YEARS START CHEATING ON ME HE DON’T USE TO CALL ME, HE ALWAYS GOING OUT WITH OTHER GIRLS ANY TIME I CALLED HIM HE BOUNCE MY CALLS. I WAS SO WORRIED BECAUSE I LOVE HIM SO MUCH AND WE ALREADY PLANE FOR MARRIAGE AND I TRIED ALL I CAN TO MAKE SURE THAT HE COME TO HIS NORMAL SCIENCES BUT ALL I COULD DO WAS NOTING. THINGS WAS GETTING WOST A FRIEND TOLD ME TO CONTACT DR USOBO. THAT HE CAN HELP ME IN THIS SITUATION, AND I WAS A GIRL WHO DOSE NOT BELIEVE ON SPELL, SO THE LAST TIME I CALLED MY MAN HE PICKED MY CALL, ALL I COULD HEAR FROM HIM IS TO TELL ME THAT HE HAS GOT ANOTHER GIRL IN SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP I WAS SO CONFUSE AND I CALLED MY FRIEND (ANNA) AND TOLD HER WHAT I JUST HAD FROM MY MAN. SHE STILL REMIND ME OF DR USOBO THAT IS THE ONLY PERSON WHO CAN HELP ME SOLVED MY PROBLEM BY BRINGING MY MAN BACK TO ME. SO THERE WAS NO OPTION FOR ME I TOLD HER TO SEND ME THE EMAIL #17
Catherine - 5 days ago
Hi I am trying to find my daughter, birth name Cathaline Alissia Lynn Bradbury-Idle. Her birthday is March 30th, 1997. She got taken away from me in 2004, along with her sister, Birth name Jazmine Pearl Smith her birth date is July 7th 1998, her brother, Birth name Pheonix Wade (Smith) Idle his birth date is September 29th 2002. We are trying to find her, and the rest, to let her know we care and we are thinking of her always. They have younger siblings that would like to meet them personally. Their younger siblings have heard all that I can tell them about them. Please any information we can get would be helpful. #18
Samantha - 4 months ago
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I'm not even sure if I'm looking for someone yet...or who I would even look for! I'm so lost and I just can't take it anymore. I'm so overwhelmed and I feel like I don't belong. I don't feel close to my family and it kills me! I Don't know why it had come down to me thinking I'm adopted! How could I be? I don't know but I don't know how to fix my broken relationship with my parents or how to fix myself. I don't think I'm adopted, I'm not sure. But how can I be so sure I mean my mom says that I looked like her when she was younger but I don't know. My brother and sister have more baby pictures of them than I do of me and it makes me feel like either they didn't pay attention or were too busy when I was a baby or they didn't know me when I was a baby. I signed up for this "search for someone" website. I'm not even sure what I'm gonna say. I'm not searching for someone even if I was who would I be searching for? I just feel broken and disappointed in myself like I messed/mess everything.. #19
Paula - 1 month ago
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Hello! I am looking for my birth family who I think still resides in Miami Florida. I was born 09/03/87 at Jackson Memorial Hospital in Miami. My sister Nicole was born on 08/11/1988. We were adopted together. I have recently just started my search for my family, but I have already found a listing that a women put up stating that she is looking for us. My mother's name is Cheryl Darlene Penn. I don't know anymore information than that, but I am on facebook as Paula Brown if whoever is looking for me happens to see this. #20
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