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Beginning an adoption reunion search can be the start to an emotionally difficult, yet rewarding journey. The first step is the biggest step you'll take. Deciding to begin your search and reunion journey commonly requires dedication, perseverance, and emotional and mental fortitude. Some of those who search find who they're looking for right away while others can search for years without success. Unfortunately, there isn't a way to know which category you'll fall into before you begin the process. However, even if success isn't met right away, the journey holds a lot of other benefits and advantages, including a better understanding of yourself and your life experiences.

Once you've decided to start your search, you will then have to decide how you're going to move forward. For starters, it's possible that the agency used to facilitate the adoption offers post-adoption services that include a registry or third party intermediary who will attempt to locate and contact the member of the triad you are searching for.

You can also search online directories that aren't related to a specific agency. Many of these online directories are free, including the Adoption.com Reunion Registry. Because of the modernity and popularity of social networking sites, that's a great place to start, too. Of course, these methods will only work if you already have identifying information about that person. You could also use the expertise of professional searchers, who do cost money, or search angels, who are free to work with. There are so many different ways to start and continue your reunion search, but you don't have to choose only one method. Why not try them all?

Often, services available through agencies or professional searchers do cost money, as mentioned above, so it's important to research the services you are investigating before taking that first step. Becoming active in online adoption communities will allow you to speak to others who may have used the services you are considering or it may lead you in a whole different direction altogether. However, it might be best to start with the free resources before moving on to the paid ones.

Once you've started your search, you'll want to begin the preparation for a possible reunion. It's important to keep your expectations of the relationship low and take things one step at a time. This is because you don't want to get your hopes up, have the reunion fail in some way, and become devastated. Keeping expectations low or expectations open and pliable means that you can get back up and keep trying until you're happy with the results. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and leap forward while emotions are high. However, taking time to ease into the relationship and build a strong foundation is important in the very first stages.

Try to keep communication light and easy until you've gotten to know the person a little better. Once you've gotten to know your adopted child or birth parent, you can then start to address the emotional topics, which will inevitably come up.

The reunion journey is an exciting one, even with all the bumps and hurdles along the way. Remember that every journey will be different, so try not to compare your reunion journey with others. Focus on your goal and your progression, and you'll soon be able to reconnect and reunite!

Adoption Reunion Discussions

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j - 10 months ago
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Please if you were adopted some of the times it is for the right reason. I did give my daughter up for adoption hoping for better than I could provide.... now I find it hard debating to open a can of worms and stir up feelings finding her or that if I do find her it will be very good...in my case if you give up a child for the right reason very heavy guilt and constant pain .. never gets easier only harder ,, every year every holdiday ever birthday, every day period #1
Debi - 6 months ago
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I would like to help my sister-in-law find her adopted child that was adopted in Ohio back in the 50's or 60's. She left her child with her family members while she looked for a job and when she returned they had adopted her out. What is the best way for me to do this? #2
Danielle - 9 months ago
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i am trying to find my sister. my mother gave her up for adoption when she was born and i would like to find her as a surprise for my mother. just wondering on how i go about this ? help please. #3
Guest - 10 months ago
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Looking for birth father from East Bay Area California. I was born feb 1....1975 in Alameda and had a closed adoption. Need health information, please . Greatly appreciate any news. #4
Lisa - 10 months ago
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My boyfriend (now husband) and I gave up for adoption our twin sons at birth in 1978. On July 17, 2013, we found one of the twins on this site. Five days later, and living only 45 minutes apart, we were joyously reunited with him, his wife, and two children (our grandchildren!). We were so happy to hear that the twins were raised together but learned that his brother had moved to Arizona eight years earlier. So on December 6, 2013, we flew to Arizona to meet him, his wife, and their two children (more grandchildren!). The twins were especially thrilled to find out that they have two younger full-blood brothers who share in their excitement, and their relationship is flourishing. It's been a mutual feeling of elation to be reunited, our love is growing by the day, and we are so excited to be living out the remainder of our lives together. I encourage you to keep the faith, don't ever give up searching, and hope will find a way. #5
Susan - 2 months ago
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I've been looking for my biologicla brother who was adopted into another home for over 10 years now...ive sent out flyers on gfacebook and still have no contact with him...it's hard and emotionally draining anmd I find myself holding my heart because I feel a little empoty without knowing who he is,m if he's okay if I will ever meet hiim...I've had no luck and every day it seems harder and harder and further and further away from reach....I haven o one I know that is also adopted or reunited ewith family...I don't know any way to start or how to go about anything....i need help and each day it's less and less easy to find a path to go on... #6
gemma - 2 months ago
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Only just found out my mum had a baby and 16 and due to her been so young she had her adopted she would be around 32. Now how do i go about finding her as my mum regrets what happened but would i would like to find her. #7
Sara - 6 months ago
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emotional journey feels like an understatement. I am registered everywhere, and haven't found even the smallest clue. I feel like a ghost, a whisper through the wind. But I hold onto the hope that you are searching for me to. I just want a glimpse at eyes that mirror mine. Sorry I am trying to remain positive and not trying to come across as negative, and reading all your positive comments gives me hope. #8
Megan Pierson - 4 months ago
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Yesterday was my dad's birthday.. It really had me Thinking whether or not she's out here looking for us? Which really there's not many days that go by that I'm not thinking about it. Maybe it's best not to know her, like a mysterious part in our heads the way we would imagine her.. A woman we might look up to.. Or she could be woman we wouldn't be proud to a accept.. So maybe it's best that we never met.. So I can put all these imaginations in my head of how an incredible woman she is.. And that I'm just like her in some ways.. To push myself to be the best that I can be! But a part of me is missing... A grandma I never got to meet. A family I never got to know. Apart of her is in me.. In my blood, running through my veins.. I am her.. So I hope one day, she'll have enough courage to meet all of us.. Cause we sure want to meet her!(: to get a restart on life.. Like finally the question all of has been wondering/ asking.. Is finally answered without hesitation. #9
Michael - 5 months ago
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Male born on September 21, 1985 in Jacksonville, Florida (I think) and processed through The Children's Home Society. Supposedly my mother died before my adoption finalized in October 1985. I was told she was beaten and fell into a coma from which she never awoke. I may have two half brothers through her. I have completed 23andMe.com and found that I am largely British-Irish with hints of Polish-Russian. Contact: xxxx This is the beginning of my journey, and it already feels like the end. The Florida statutes protect the biological parents like I'm a piece of irrelevant chattel without a say in the matter. Closed adoption laws are so inhumane to adult adoptees. The very nature of human behavior and instinct is to look to your history for enlightenment. Hence, the wide popularity of archaeology and genealogy. It's human nature to investigate the past. Legislatures should be ashamed of their decisions to seal off all identifying information to adoptees. #10
Teresa - 1 month ago
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Looking for birth mother and or siblings born april 1960 omaha nebraska. Dont have any names place of birth. was adopted from Nebraska childrens home to a loving family who could not have children. Interested in family health history and meeting any siblings if any. #11
Alice Alvarez - 10 months ago
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Hi iam new at this but i had to try iam not sure if this is the way i should start but i had to start somewhere. Iam looking for my two boys Iam not sure if there names were changed but the birth names are Jusin Francisco Alvarez jr. and Christopher Francisco Alvarez jr.. They were born Dec12,1998 and May 11,2002.I the birth mother Alice Alvarez lost my as far as i know My kids were born in San Antonio Tx. If anyone sees this and you know about my kids please let me know. I just want to know how there doing i understand if they wouldnt want to meet there birth mom.My kids were adopted to a family in Mc,Callen Tx. Thank you very much. #12
Bobbie - 11 months ago
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I'm a birth mother ... My son was born in Oakland, Ca.. Feb 9th 1964 ..You called me Your name is Gary ..Gary when you called me I was in shock ..But I loved hearing from you.... Please call me again ... I was so young when you were born ..There fore I had no choice but to adopt you to a family who could give you more than I could had ever. I have always thought about you and have loved you all my life and always will.. please call me again .. I am sorry that I could not meet you with your half sisters ..Call me and I can try to explain why .... I hope the information I gave you helped .. I hope you were able to find your birth father Steve ... Please call me again ... How I wish I had talked more to you ..But with our conversation it felt as if I was talking to a long tine friend .... thank you so much for reaching out to me ..I'm sure it was a shocking to hear my voice for the first time.. as it was for me to hear yours ...I will always be there for you if you want ... Love Bobbie #13
Matt - 1 day ago
I am looking for either my birth parents, siblings or even just trying to get medical history so I can pass that on to my kids. I was born in St. Louis MO in 1960, on the 24th of December, at least that is what is on my adopted birth Certificate. All I know is my mother wasn't married when she had me. I went and did the ancestry DNA and it came up with some possible 3rd cousins but nothing better than that. It came up with the names Meeks and Wholpers as possible links, but that is the best it had. I know growing up, I have had people say that I looked just like someone they knew and were just talking to at parties but was never able to meet that person. Any help would be great. I grew up on the north end of St. Louis if that helps. #14
mrs linda wilxon - 2 days ago
I'm Linda Wilson from usa. My husband left me for no reason on 13th of June 2010. He moved in with another woman, I felt like killing myself and I've tried so many spell casters but all to no avail.You can reach him on hisemail:xxxx My life was very bitter and sorrowful. Then one day, a friend of mine told me about this spell caster called Great Aliyu who helped her on her own situation when her husband left her. But at first i didn't believe it because i've tested so many of them and it didn't work. she begged me further so I decided to try this spell caster called Great Aliyu. I contacted him and i told him my problems and gave him all the necessary information he required. He just laughed and told me never to worry that my husband will call me back in less than 6 days and i believed with faith, and after he has finished casting the spell my husband called me and started begging. He apologized and came back to me crying for a second chance. Today i and my husb #15
Marnay Love - 3 days ago
I am looking for a sister that my mother gave up for adoption. All I have is her first name and am worried about asking my mother for more information. My mom was in a very abusive relationship and the father was an alcoholic...He has apologized for his actions toward my mom and the situation that lead to this adoption, but I would really like to find my sister. Is there anyway that I can find her with my mothers name and her name.Any help will be welcome. It is past time for this reunion, and anyone who wishes to help may contact me on facebook. Mary was born in CIncinnati Ohio. in the 80's, and is biracial. Thank you #16
melisa banks - 5 days ago
I am melisa from USA,i am very happy today because of what the great Dr guru has done in my life. I got married to my loving husband 2 years ago and we were living a happy life together as young couples and everything was moving on smoothly without any problem, 6 months later I went to the hospital for checkup and the doctor confirmed that I am three weeks pregnant with my heart filled with joy and my face full of smile and laughter I went home hurriedly to brake the good news to my dearly husband and he was very happy about the news and that night is a night I will always live to remember, to cut the story short after I have put to birth he was very happy, you have to see our bouncing baby boy, but along the line and all of a sudden he started keeping late night and going to club and doing things he don't use to do before, and one mourning I confronted him about his new attitude but he ignore my advice, but to my greatest surprise I discover my husband have a mistress in his working p #17
bryan - 6 days ago
My name is scott Bryan I live in United States. I am happily married with two kids and a beautiful wife but something terrible happened to my family along the line, I lost my job and my wife packed out of my house because I was unable to take care of her and my kids at that particular time. I manage all through for four years until I cannot cope with the situation again, so I searched on the internet for any help about getting back my family and job, but I came across so many testimonies, so I decided to Try Dr. ogudugu of (xxxx) who attended to me and instructed me on things to do which I did with faith and within 3days, my office called and gave me back my work and my wife came back with my kids and apologized for her actions am happy again with my family, i cant never stop to say thank you Dr ogudugu,contact him today and all your problems we be solve his email adddress xxxx #18
Billy Lynn - 6 days ago
I am searching for my birth father. I was born Dawn Christie Kazzee to Violet Marie Sinks Kazzee April 23, 1965 in St. Louis, Missouri. I was adopted by Bill and Opal Tedder in 1968 and my name changed to Billy Lynn Tedder. I found my birth mother, who I lost in 2012, and brothers by her, now would love to complete my search and find my birth father and his family. I have been told his name is James Lewis and he had reddish hair and wore glasses. I had a very good life growing up and did not find out I was adopted until I was 27. My mom had passed away the year before and I never told my dad, who I lost in 05. I have 5 wonderful children and 2 awesome grandsons who I would love for my birth father and his family to meet. Thank you for any and all help!! God Bless! #19
scotch bruce - 6 days ago
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