Adoption Search & Reunion

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Beginning an adoption reunion search can be the start to an emotionally difficult, yet rewarding journey. The first step is the biggest step you'll take. Deciding to begin your search and reunion journey commonly requires dedication, perseverance, and emotional and mental fortitude. Some of those who search find who they're looking for right away while others can search for years without success. Unfortunately, there isn't a way to know which category you'll fall into before you begin the process. However, even if success isn't met right away, the journey holds a lot of other benefits and advantages, including a better understanding of yourself and your life experiences.

Once you've decided to start your search, you will then have to decide how you're going to move forward. For starters, it's possible that the agency used to facilitate the adoption offers post-adoption services that include a registry or third party intermediary who will attempt to locate and contact the member of the triad you are searching for.

You can also search online directories that aren't related to a specific agency. Many of these online directories are free, including the Reunion Registry. Because of the modernity and popularity of social networking sites, that's a great place to start, too. Of course, these methods will only work if you already have identifying information about that person. You could also use the expertise of professional searchers, who do cost money, or search angels, who are free to work with. There are so many different ways to start and continue your reunion search, but you don't have to choose only one method. Why not try them all?

Often, services available through agencies or professional searchers do cost money, as mentioned above, so it's important to research the services you are investigating before taking that first step. Becoming active in online adoption communities will allow you to speak to others who may have used the services you are considering or it may lead you in a whole different direction altogether. However, it might be best to start with the free resources before moving on to the paid ones.

Once you've started your search, you'll want to begin the preparation for a possible reunion. It's important to keep your expectations of the relationship low and take things one step at a time. This is because you don't want to get your hopes up, have the reunion fail in some way, and become devastated. Keeping expectations low or expectations open and pliable means that you can get back up and keep trying until you're happy with the results. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and leap forward while emotions are high. However, taking time to ease into the relationship and build a strong foundation is important in the very first stages.

Try to keep communication light and easy until you've gotten to know the person a little better. Once you've gotten to know your adopted child or birth parent, you can then start to address the emotional topics, which will inevitably come up.

The reunion journey is an exciting one, even with all the bumps and hurdles along the way. Remember that every journey will be different, so try not to compare your reunion journey with others. Focus on your goal and your progression, and you'll soon be able to reconnect and reunite!

Adoption Reunion Discussions

Adoption Reunion Blogs

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January 15, 2014, 8:58 am
First and foremost, let me say this: I was blessed with wonderful siblings! I'm not talking about my natural siblings, I'm talking about my...
Little Sister, Penny
January 15, 2014, 12:51 pm
My mind was a blank slate regarding my birth siblings . Born of the same mother, as far as I knew our resemblance would end there. Before...

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All Adoptees Please Post Here!
May 5, 2015, 8:34 am
Born Jan 3rd 1983 in Tulsa Oklahoma. Biological Mothers name right now is Susan Flagg and she graduated in 1980 from Weleetka Highschool.
Non-ID Info?
May 4, 2015, 5:12 pm
I submitted information to PAIR (Pennsylvania Adoption Information Registry), and surprise! No info available. The letter recommends...
St Mary's Hospital Syracuse Ny
May 3, 2015, 10:40 am
So its been 13 years since you posted this and I just found it while doing a family search. I was also looking for info on St. Marys...
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Debi - 1 year ago
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I would like to help my sister-in-law find her adopted child that was adopted in Ohio back in the 50's or 60's. She left her child with her family members while she looked for a job and when she returned they had adopted her out. What is the best way for me to do this? #1
Susan - 1 year ago
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I've been looking for my biologicla brother who was adopted into another home for over 10 years now...ive sent out flyers on gfacebook and still have no contact with's hard and emotionally draining anmd I find myself holding my heart because I feel a little empoty without knowing who he is,m if he's okay if I will ever meet hiim...I've had no luck and every day it seems harder and harder and further and further away from reach....I haven o one I know that is also adopted or reunited ewith family...I don't know any way to start or how to go about anything....i need help and each day it's less and less easy to find a path to go on... #2
Heather - 11 months ago
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My name is Heather Brode Maiden name is Hershberger. I was born in Barberton Ohio at Barberton Citizen Hospital on 8/18/85 at 9:00 a.m. by a Dr Mohamed Dabbas.. When I have searched my birthday along with the town and hospital I have a number that comes up and a name "Laurie Gregory" Ive been told that could be my mothers name or it could be what they would of named me When I've talked to other people. I dont have much information. My papers have said that both my parents were 23 at the time of my birth and that my father was booked in the summit county jail in Ohio on the day of my birth. The description I have gotten is my mother is a medium height with sandy brown hair and a speech impediment and the only description of my father that is recorded is that he appeared somewhat "Dull"..It also states that I have two brothers,It says that my eldest brother is two years and 10 months older and my other brother is 23 months older.. I am just looking for someone in the family #3
Melanie - 1 year ago
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I am a 28 year old African American woman I was born 12/07/1985. In Buffalo NY at Buffalo General Hospital I was put up for adoption through Catholic Charities agency. I was told the reason I was given up was because my birth mother was young she was in school and she already had a kid so I know I could possibly have biological siblings out there somewhere I would like to get to know. I would also like to know any family health history or concerns. I was told Melanie was the name I was given when I was born so if this story sounds familiar please reach out and we can start with baby steps on getting to know one another #4
Denise - 1 year ago
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I have searched for my birth parents for 30 years with the blessing of my adoptive parents (both are gone now). I know my DNA, and found 3-4 cousins this way but have had no luck in figuring out who my parents are. Private adoption with a lawyer. I was told my mother was 28 when she had me. She was 5' 6" dark hair grey eyes, Father was blonde 6". I was born in Seneca, Oconee County, South Carolina, 6 lbs, 6 ounces at birth - when my adoptive parents came to pick me up at Seneca Hospital, the nurse said "Come see baby Denice" Uncanny that I had been named Denise Elaine by my adoptive parents and Karen Denice by my birth mother. #5
Megan Pierson - 1 year ago
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Yesterday was my dad's birthday.. It really had me Thinking whether or not she's out here looking for us? Which really there's not many days that go by that I'm not thinking about it. Maybe it's best not to know her, like a mysterious part in our heads the way we would imagine her.. A woman we might look up to.. Or she could be woman we wouldn't be proud to a accept.. So maybe it's best that we never met.. So I can put all these imaginations in my head of how an incredible woman she is.. And that I'm just like her in some ways.. To push myself to be the best that I can be! But a part of me is missing... A grandma I never got to meet. A family I never got to know. Apart of her is in me.. In my blood, running through my veins.. I am her.. So I hope one day, she'll have enough courage to meet all of us.. Cause we sure want to meet her!(: to get a restart on life.. Like finally the question all of has been wondering/ asking.. Is finally answered without hesitation. #6
Michael - 1 year ago
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Male born on September 21, 1985 in Jacksonville, Florida (I think) and processed through The Children's Home Society. Supposedly my mother died before my adoption finalized in October 1985. I was told she was beaten and fell into a coma from which she never awoke. I may have two half brothers through her. I have completed and found that I am largely British-Irish with hints of Polish-Russian. Contact: xxxx This is the beginning of my journey, and it already feels like the end. The Florida statutes protect the biological parents like I'm a piece of irrelevant chattel without a say in the matter. Closed adoption laws are so inhumane to adult adoptees. The very nature of human behavior and instinct is to look to your history for enlightenment. Hence, the wide popularity of archaeology and genealogy. It's human nature to investigate the past. Legislatures should be ashamed of their decisions to seal off all identifying information to adoptees. #7
Paula - 8 months ago
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Hello! I am looking for my birth family who I think still resides in Miami Florida. I was born 09/03/87 at Jackson Memorial Hospital in Miami. My sister Nicole was born on 08/11/1988. We were adopted together. I have recently just started my search for my family, but I have already found a listing that a women put up stating that she is looking for us. My mother's name is Cheryl Darlene Penn. I don't know anymore information than that, but I am on facebook as Paula Brown if whoever is looking for me happens to see this. #8
Tara Jones - 8 months ago
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My name is Tara Jones, and I was born on 06.26.1974, in Jacksonville, Florida at Memorial Hospital. I am searching for any biological relative. I was told I have a brother who is two years older than me, and my bio mother came to Fl to have me because her parents lived here. I was also told that my bio father was a career Navyman stationed in Washington State. I heard she had blonde hair. I have no identifying information and even though I requested info from Tallahassee over a year ago, I have received nothing. Please HELP! #9
Marisa - 2 weeks ago
My brother Robert and I am searching for our little sister. She was born on September 15, 1997 and she was adopted out when she was only 6 months old in 1998 out of Fort Smith, Arkansas, we don't have a lot of information and we are not sure if she is still in the area or if she is even in Arkansas anymore but we are not giving up on our search, all we have is her birth name Erin Lashea Jimenez Aguilar and our mothers name Stephanie Wingfield (Baker) and we would love to find you not just to feel the void in our hearts but for our mother as well so she can can have you in her life, our mother is not doing so well so we want to give her this chance in a form of a gift to get to know her youngest if you are out there looking for us we are looking for you as well, we would love the opportunity to get to know you and we would love to have you in our lives! #10
Brittany - 1 year ago
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Looking for my brother. His birthday is 1-6-86 he was adopted out of catholic family services in Oklahoma city. If you have any information, please contact me. I've been trying to find him for years. Help to find him is greatly appreciated. I feel as if I have an empty space in my life that only he can fill. Please help. #11
Manfred Hiller - 4 weeks ago
Me and my brother Klaus were adopted from Germany to an american family. I was born in 1955 in Hesse, Geissen (GieBen) Germany to Katherina Hiller. Birth name was listed as Manfred Hiller. I have a brother named Klaus. I want to know who I am. I Would be so happy to just find any relative to correspond with. I am Just tired of wondering who I really am. I had a sister named Dagmar Hiller ( adopted by RAF couple in England) Who I would love to find . Any info would be great Thanks, You can contact me just search me on Facebook , #12
jessica andrade - 1 month ago
hi im looking for my niece alexis unique Juarez, I think she is between the age of 14 to 16 not quiet sure she was taken from my sister at a very young age. more then likely if she got adopted then they probably changed it, we aslo do not know her whereabouts! my sister lost all contact with her daughters but did have contact with her two sons. my sister has been battling with her heroin addiction for many years. on September 21 2015 my beautiful precious sister passed away she was only 45 she still had her whole life aheade of her. so I really need to find my niece.THANK YOU #13
jodie Harwood - desiree's aunt - 12 months ago
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Hi, I've been looking now For a long time For my niece Desiree Marie Ann (Hamilton) though last name iis different because she was adopted in Indiana around 2005 . Me And her Mom is looking For her. We miss her very much. I'm her aunt jodie. Any Info please contact me I have facebook And twitter. (Jodie Harwood-johnson) she's welcome to contact me. I keep adding all these desiree's thinking one of them is her but nothing yet!! I'm still heartbroken that I haven't seen her since she was almost 9yrs Old And she's 18 yrs Old now. She was born 1/8/96 in (southbend/mishawaka,indiana) she may be in Indiana And she may not still be in Indiana. #14
if anyone see's this i am little Charlie - 3 days ago
I'm Charles Swartz I was adopted my phone number is xxxxx my dad was Jr my mom was Tammy my dad's dad was ezra Swartz and my mom's dad was john grandma was kthey live on isle rd I was born 07 23 1980 my aunt Twila and Johnny and all I miss and love you all to Yolanda you most I think of love little Charlie plz call someone. #15
pharah diaz - 5 days ago
im 16 years old and my mom told me she give my sis up for adopted she a year younger then me i asked for name brith but she told he not to look but now i know she out there and i know it a big sis job to be there i just want to know who she is and meet her even as a friend but i don't know how to stared with out my mom finding out were your u #16
Keisha Williams-Porras - 7 days ago
Before Befor I was adopted my name was Marqueesha Williams. I'm looking for my daddy his name is Marcus Williams. I was born in Seattle, WA. I jus need help finding my daddy. I'm 18 now an was never aloud to contact him by the adopted family. I need help idk what to do. #17
Bob - 5 months ago
Last of 23 adopted siblings found after 57 year long search Hello I am sending you a link about a Chicago WGN radio interview with a story about a family of 23 siblings separated in 1958 after the death of their Mother. All the children were adopted to different families all over the USA from coast to coast . Now , after 57 years of searching they have finally, just three weeks ago, located the last lost sister . Frances Livingston Cantrell who was a student at WEST FULTON HIGH SCHOOL IN N.W. ATLANTA up until 1959 and was raised in Atlanta and lived in the Atlanta / Marietta area up until her death in 1993. The family was disappointed that she was no longer alive, but was able to contact her two children, Curtis and Phyllis, and her husband, me, Bob Cantrell. Can you even imagine how hard, how dedicated the family was, and how much effort they have extended to have looked for that long a period of time to locate their one last sister of the 23. Please take a look and listen #18
Robert - 1 week ago
Robert John Murray, born 6/18/1946. Kew Gardens Hospital, Kew Gardens, NY. Private Adoption thru Dr. Stanley Kahn, Blake Ave., Lynbrook, NY. Dr. is deceased and office no longer there. Mother was 23 at time of my birth. Looking to connect with any birth family. #19
Mary Ellen - 2 weeks ago
When my son was born, the social climate was very different than it is today His father...I was young, no nothing to give him. The Dr the Priest all told me ..allow him to have a life in a loving family. I have been tormented by that every day I think of him every day Were they really loving Did they really give him the love and attention I He was born nov 1!1966 If he is out there pls tell him now has a sister with a masters and a brother 6 6 as well as a 5 yr old miece #20
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