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Beginning an adoption reunion search can be the start to an emotionally difficult, yet rewarding journey. The first step is the biggest step you'll take. Deciding to begin your search and reunion journey commonly requires dedication, perseverance, and emotional and mental fortitude. Some of those who search find who they're looking for right away while others can search for years without success. Unfortunately, there isn't a way to know which category you'll fall into before you begin the process. However, even if success isn't met right away, the journey holds a lot of other benefits and advantages, including a better understanding of yourself and your life experiences.

Once you've decided to start your search, you will then have to decide how you're going to move forward. For starters, it's possible that the agency used to facilitate the adoption offers post-adoption services that include a registry or third party intermediary who will attempt to locate and contact the member of the triad you are searching for.

You can also search online directories that aren't related to a specific agency. Many of these online directories are free, including the Adoption.com Reunion Registry. Because of the modernity and popularity of social networking sites, that's a great place to start, too. Of course, these methods will only work if you already have identifying information about that person. You could also use the expertise of professional searchers, who do cost money, or search angels, who are free to work with. There are so many different ways to start and continue your reunion search, but you don't have to choose only one method. Why not try them all?

Often, services available through agencies or professional searchers do cost money, as mentioned above, so it's important to research the services you are investigating before taking that first step. Becoming active in online adoption communities will allow you to speak to others who may have used the services you are considering or it may lead you in a whole different direction altogether. However, it might be best to start with the free resources before moving on to the paid ones.

Once you've started your search, you'll want to begin the preparation for a possible reunion. It's important to keep your expectations of the relationship low and take things one step at a time. This is because you don't want to get your hopes up, have the reunion fail in some way, and become devastated. Keeping expectations low or expectations open and pliable means that you can get back up and keep trying until you're happy with the results. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and leap forward while emotions are high. However, taking time to ease into the relationship and build a strong foundation is important in the very first stages.

Try to keep communication light and easy until you've gotten to know the person a little better. Once you've gotten to know your adopted child or birth parent, you can then start to address the emotional topics, which will inevitably come up.

The reunion journey is an exciting one, even with all the bumps and hurdles along the way. Remember that every journey will be different, so try not to compare your reunion journey with others. Focus on your goal and your progression, and you'll soon be able to reconnect and reunite!

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Joann - 7 months ago
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I have searched for my birth mother for almost 20 years. She found me two days ago. I am on every adoption registry site, and she found me through Facebook. I had an amazing adoptive family, but the hole in my heart is now gone. I have a huge family that has searched for me for 36 years!! I have pictures and now know where I got my eyes and my hair and my smile from. It's amazing to finally see people who look like me. I have so much in common with my new family. Never stop looking. Don't give up. It's not all sunshine and roses, but knowing where I come from and the support from my adoptive family has made my life complete. #1
Valerie - 1 year ago
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The baby girl I gave birth to is 36 today...born 5/20/77 in Moorhead, MN. Happy birthday, dear young lady. I pray that life has treated you well. I think of you often and of course wonder... who you are, what you do, how you feel, what you are like... So many questions. I pray for you this day that you have a beautiful birthday. #2
Danielle - 4 months ago
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i am trying to find my sister. my mother gave her up for adoption when she was born and i would like to find her as a surprise for my mother. just wondering on how i go about this ? help please. #3
Deborah (Debbie) Griffiths Gines - 11 months ago
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I'm looking for my birth Mother. I don't have a lot of information due to the fact that it was a "closed" adoption. This is what I do know #4
Beverly Wood - 12 months ago
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My baby boy was born Feb 20th 1976 given via a privite adoption to a couple in the Oakville area, they named him MURRAY ALLEN, so I am told. I was also told he passed away when he was 6, I just would like to know about his life and where he is barried so I may attened his grave. Perhaps see some pictures of him, I have waited all my life to be reunited with him and my heart is breaking beyond belief. Please help me fined this couple, they were 25ish at the time in 1976 and I would love to meet them and thank them for what they did for him and the love they gave to him. Again MURRAY ALLEN, BORN FEB 20TH 1976 #5
Guest - 5 months ago
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Looking for birth father from East Bay Area California. I was born feb 1....1975 in Alameda and had a closed adoption. Need health information, please . Greatly appreciate any news. #6
chris bazan - 11 months ago
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ISO my birth mother I was born in Hoboken on April 6th 1965 my mothers name was Catherine and she named me Daniel, she would not indentify my father my mother was 16yrs old at the time. Was adopted after a couple of days to a family that lived in Upper Michigan #7
Janie - 5 months ago
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I am searching for my baby girl tthat I gave birth to May 27, 1969. This was a closed adoption in Ft. LAUDERDALE, Florida handled by attorney Helen T Hope (Deceased) Dr. Kay Miller and her brother Judge John Miller. The adoption was to acouple in Nassau County, Long Island, New York. My full name is Janie Lee Solomon. Maiden name is Smith. I am on FB Living in Atlanta, Ga. I would love to know you. You have a a biological brother birn in 1979 and I raised 2 cousins which are 37 and 22. If you are searching too and we could reunite....it would be one of the happiest days of my life. #8
Alice Alvarez - 5 months ago
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Hi iam new at this but i had to try iam not sure if this is the way i should start but i had to start somewhere. Iam looking for my two boys Iam not sure if there names were changed but the birth names are Jusin Francisco Alvarez jr. and Christopher Francisco Alvarez jr.. They were born Dec12,1998 and May 11,2002.I the birth mother Alice Alvarez lost my as far as i know My kids were born in San Antonio Tx. If anyone sees this and you know about my kids please let me know. I just want to know how there doing i understand if they wouldnt want to meet there birth mom.My kids were adopted to a family in Mc,Callen Tx. Thank you very much. #9
Bobbie - 6 months ago
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I'm a birth mother ... My son was born in Oakland, Ca.. Feb 9th 1964 ..You called me Your name is Gary ..Gary when you called me I was in shock ..But I loved hearing from you.... Please call me again ... I was so young when you were born ..There fore I had no choice but to adopt you to a family who could give you more than I could had ever. I have always thought about you and have loved you all my life and always will.. please call me again .. I am sorry that I could not meet you with your half sisters ..Call me and I can try to explain why .... I hope the information I gave you helped .. I hope you were able to find your birth father Steve ... Please call me again ... How I wish I had talked more to you ..But with our conversation it felt as if I was talking to a long tine friend .... thank you so much for reaching out to me ..I'm sure it was a shocking to hear my voice for the first time.. as it was for me to hear yours ...I will always be there for you if you want ... Love Bobbie #10
j - 5 months ago
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Please if you were adopted some of the times it is for the right reason. I did give my daughter up for adoption hoping for better than I could provide.... now I find it hard debating to open a can of worms and stir up feelings finding her or that if I do find her it will be very good...in my case if you give up a child for the right reason very heavy guilt and constant pain .. never gets easier only harder ,, every year every holdiday ever birthday, every day period #11
Taylor - 3 months ago
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Hi, Im Taylor. I am a ex- foster youth and was adopted at age 9. Im currently 21 years old, i been in and out of fosterhomes, and shelters. As a child i was born with a disability that affected different parts of my body and as a comprehending disorder. When i was born, i had a lifespan to live up to 5 years old. i never knew my dad or mom . But would love to know if theres any information that can be helped to unify me and my family, as much would be appreciated. Been figuring how to and where to look. i found my real mom just last year. Being told things about my other half wasnt there. And that my adopted parents was my ” Real Parents”. And so forth. But all that i know is my dads name is Steve(Steven)Ellis. And been just trying to know who i am, my identity, my other half. And would love to be reunited. Even if my dad is not ready, to meet. Or to be in contact. But for him to know IM Alive!! #12
Guest - 3 days ago
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My birthmother, GERTRUDE KINSEY, was born in 1928 in Ohio, sister to Charlotte (born 1927) and Theodore (born 1932) and was a dietician for many years in Ohio and New York. She gave birth to me in what was probably Grasslands Hospital, White Plains New York in July, 1966. I was given away for adoption at the recommendation of her younger brother Theodore who had 3 adopted children of his own. I would love help finding GERTRUDE KINSEY and any of her siblings and nephews and nieces. #13
Dawniel - 10 months ago
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I am looking for my 2 sisters that were given up for adoption. Birth name Molly DOB Oct 20 or 21, 1980 born in Minnesota in a "closed" adoption. Younger sister birth name Chelsea adoptive name Catherine DOB Jan 6, 1986 born Houston (area) Texas in an "open" adoption. I have another sister, I grew up with, that lives in AZ and I know she is also hoping to meet our lost sisters one day as well. There is also a chance that my sister Chelsea/Catherine may also have a younger half sister, age 11, depending if we share a father (which is possible). I would love to extend my family and have all of my sisters in my life. Thank you for reading my story even if you can't help. #14
Beatrice - 3 weeks ago
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I'm looking for my birth mother and siblings. I know her name was Ofelia and my siblings names were Samantha and Patrick. I was born on Feb 15, 1989 in Taylor Texas. I have a great and caring family but I need this information. If anyone knows anything.....please.... #15
Debi - 3 weeks ago
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I would like to help my sister-in-law find her adopted child that was adopted in Ohio back in the 50's or 60's. She left her child with her family members while she looked for a job and when she returned they had adopted her out. What is the best way for me to do this? #16
Kathy - 1 month ago
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I am helping my best friend locate a SON she was forced to give up, he was born May 2, 1961 at the 'Rest Cottage'-Pilot Point Nazarene home for unwed mothers in Denton, TX. She has mourned his absence every day since. The only info she has is he weighed 7#6oz., and his adopted parents were both professors at a college in Dallas. #17
linda - 5 months ago
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after 53 years i have decided to look for my birth mother. i was born in Erie pa. on 02/19/1960. from wat i understand the doctors last name was Agresti and his brother was the lawyer that handled the adoption. so both named Agresti. i was 5 days old right out the hospital. there once was a rumor my birth mother was a college student from ohio although i have no confirmation. also my baptismal certificate has feb.22nd as my birth date. my adopted mom once said that durring a visit to the doctor's office she was told the birth mom was in the waiting room. there were just a few women in the room. they were all tall slim and had dark brown hair all of which i inherited along with graying hair at mid 20's. #18
Linda - 5 months ago
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In my search journey I have been reunited with 3 out of 5 siblings. We are still searching for 2 more. I would like to find them soon as we are all getting up in age. It would be awesome to complete the circle. They are 2 males that were born in Akron OH. One, was born 6-15-1938, the other was born 8-5-1948. I have submitted posts on many sites and have had no luck. If anyone has any info I would appreciate very much. My other 3 siblings that I was reunited with also were born in Akron OH. Our reunion has been awesome and a blessing. #19
samantha - 6 months ago
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I am writeing this in hope of finding my nephew and neace that was token somewhere in beoumont texas in 2002 or 2003 the children are from marion ohio but my sister lost them in a motel in beoumont texas due to drugs the boys name is William Otis 6yrs my neaces name was Sydney marie 2 yesplease help me find them ive missed their whole lifes and its not fair I did and still do cair I was nothing more than a child my self when it happened please help my e mail is xxxx only e mail if seriouse please no lies its been long enof I miss and love them more than they know. #20
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