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Beginning an adoption reunion search can be the start to an emotionally difficult, yet rewarding journey. The first step is the biggest step you'll take. Deciding to begin your search and reunion journey commonly requires dedication, perseverance, and emotional and mental fortitude. Some of those who search find who they're looking for right away while others can search for years without success. Unfortunately, there isn't a way to know which category you'll fall into before you begin the process. However, even if success isn't met right away, the journey holds a lot of other benefits and advantages, including a better understanding of yourself and your life experiences.

Once you've decided to start your search, you will then have to decide how you're going to move forward. For starters, it's possible that the agency used to facilitate the adoption offers post-adoption services that include a registry or third party intermediary who will attempt to locate and contact the member of the triad you are searching for.

You can also search online directories that aren't related to a specific agency. Many of these online directories are free, including the Adoption.com Reunion Registry. Because of the modernity and popularity of social networking sites, that's a great place to start, too. Of course, these methods will only work if you already have identifying information about that person. You could also use the expertise of professional searchers, who do cost money, or search angels, who are free to work with. There are so many different ways to start and continue your reunion search, but you don't have to choose only one method. Why not try them all?

Often, services available through agencies or professional searchers do cost money, as mentioned above, so it's important to research the services you are investigating before taking that first step. Becoming active in online adoption communities will allow you to speak to others who may have used the services you are considering or it may lead you in a whole different direction altogether. However, it might be best to start with the free resources before moving on to the paid ones.

Once you've started your search, you'll want to begin the preparation for a possible reunion. It's important to keep your expectations of the relationship low and take things one step at a time. This is because you don't want to get your hopes up, have the reunion fail in some way, and become devastated. Keeping expectations low or expectations open and pliable means that you can get back up and keep trying until you're happy with the results. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and leap forward while emotions are high. However, taking time to ease into the relationship and build a strong foundation is important in the very first stages.

Try to keep communication light and easy until you've gotten to know the person a little better. Once you've gotten to know your adopted child or birth parent, you can then start to address the emotional topics, which will inevitably come up.

The reunion journey is an exciting one, even with all the bumps and hurdles along the way. Remember that every journey will be different, so try not to compare your reunion journey with others. Focus on your goal and your progression, and you'll soon be able to reconnect and reunite!

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May 5, 2015, 8:34 am
Born Jan 3rd 1983 in Tulsa Oklahoma. Biological Mothers name right now is Susan Flagg and she graduated in 1980 from Weleetka Highschool.
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Susan - 2 years ago
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I've been looking for my biologicla brother who was adopted into another home for over 10 years now...ive sent out flyers on gfacebook and still have no contact with him...it's hard and emotionally draining anmd I find myself holding my heart because I feel a little empoty without knowing who he is,m if he's okay if I will ever meet hiim...I've had no luck and every day it seems harder and harder and further and further away from reach....I haven o one I know that is also adopted or reunited ewith family...I don't know any way to start or how to go about anything....i need help and each day it's less and less easy to find a path to go on... #1
Heather - 2 years ago
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My name is Heather Brode Maiden name is Hershberger. I was born in Barberton Ohio at Barberton Citizen Hospital on 8/18/85 at 9:00 a.m. by a Dr Mohamed Dabbas.. When I have searched my birthday along with the town and hospital I have a number that comes up and a name "Laurie Gregory" Ive been told that could be my mothers name or it could be what they would of named me When I've talked to other people. I dont have much information. My papers have said that both my parents were 23 at the time of my birth and that my father was booked in the summit county jail in Ohio on the day of my birth. The description I have gotten is my mother is a medium height with sandy brown hair and a speech impediment and the only description of my father that is recorded is that he appeared somewhat "Dull"..It also states that I have two brothers,It says that my eldest brother is two years and 10 months older and my other brother is 23 months older.. I am just looking for someone in the family #2
Melanie - 2 years ago
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I am a 28 year old African American woman I was born 12/07/1985. In Buffalo NY at Buffalo General Hospital I was put up for adoption through Catholic Charities agency. I was told the reason I was given up was because my birth mother was young she was in school and she already had a kid so I know I could possibly have biological siblings out there somewhere I would like to get to know. I would also like to know any family health history or concerns. I was told Melanie was the name I was given when I was born so if this story sounds familiar please reach out and we can start with baby steps on getting to know one another #3
Denise - 2 years ago
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I have searched for my birth parents for 30 years with the blessing of my adoptive parents (both are gone now). I know my DNA, and found 3-4 cousins this way but have had no luck in figuring out who my parents are. Private adoption with a lawyer. I was told my mother was 28 when she had me. She was 5' 6" dark hair grey eyes, Father was blonde 6". I was born in Seneca, Oconee County, South Carolina, 6 lbs, 6 ounces at birth - when my adoptive parents came to pick me up at Seneca Hospital, the nurse said "Come see baby Denice" Uncanny that I had been named Denise Elaine by my adoptive parents and Karen Denice by my birth mother. #4
Paula - 2 years ago
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Hello! I am looking for my birth family who I think still resides in Miami Florida. I was born 09/03/87 at Jackson Memorial Hospital in Miami. My sister Nicole was born on 08/11/1988. We were adopted together. I have recently just started my search for my family, but I have already found a listing that a women put up stating that she is looking for us. My mother's name is Cheryl Darlene Penn. I don't know anymore information than that, but I am on facebook as Paula Brown if whoever is looking for me happens to see this. #5
Tara Jones - 2 years ago
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My name is Tara Jones, and I was born on 06.26.1974, in Jacksonville, Florida at Memorial Hospital. I am searching for any biological relative. I was told I have a brother who is two years older than me, and my bio mother came to Fl to have me because her parents lived here. I was also told that my bio father was a career Navyman stationed in Washington State. I heard she had blonde hair. I have no identifying information and even though I requested info from Tallahassee over a year ago, I have received nothing. Please HELP! #6
Brittany - 2 years ago
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Looking for my brother. His birthday is 1-6-86 he was adopted out of catholic family services in Oklahoma city. If you have any information, please contact me. I've been trying to find him for years. Help to find him is greatly appreciated. I feel as if I have an empty space in my life that only he can fill. Please help. #7
jodie Harwood - desiree's aunt - 2 years ago
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Hi, I've been looking now For a long time For my niece Desiree Marie Ann (Hamilton) though last name iis different because she was adopted in Indiana around 2005 . Me And her Mom is looking For her. We miss her very much. I'm her aunt jodie. Any Info please contact me I have facebook And twitter. (Jodie Harwood-johnson) she's welcome to contact me. I keep adding all these desiree's thinking one of them is her but nothing yet!! I'm still heartbroken that I haven't seen her since she was almost 9yrs Old And she's 18 yrs Old now. She was born 1/8/96 in (southbend/mishawaka,indiana) she may be in Indiana And she may not still be in Indiana. #8
shai-ane - 2 years ago
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My sister was adopted about about 2 years old in about 1987? I am desperatly trying to find her, ive searched on Facebook and really do not know what else to do. If anyone who knows what the right roads to take would be extremely helpful! It would be the most amazing thing to be re connected to my sister and to let her know she was never a secret and the reasons she was gave up... Just really need some help! #9
Sky - 10 months ago
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I'm sky and I an a teenager that is trying to find her sister that was taken away from my mom at 13 years old... All I know about her is that her name was Angel and that she's probably in California... I miss her and it tears me apart each night knowing she's not by my side when I truly need a sibling... I know some people are like in their 50's and still looking for siblings but.... I been going through depression for 2 years now knowing that I don't have a sister by my side and asking me what is wrong... My real mom is addicted to drugs and has been going to jail recently.. And I shut her out of my life about a week ago just because of how I'm adopted by my grandmother and she was never there for me when I best needed her.... I really need help finding her... I cry each night cause she's not here... I hate that my real mother kept her a secret from me.... Please I beg of someone to help me.... I need my sister. I'm not complete until I know she's by my side..... #10
Looking for 3 Wards from Indiana - 11 months ago
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I'm looking for my three little cousins that got adopted (not by choice) :( around 10 years ago.. Kelsea,Mark, and Erica Ward from Connersville Indiana. Kelsea will be 17 or 18 now. Mark 15 or 16 and Erica 13. I cant remember that much about them because i was young myself when they got adopted out. Their moms name is Tammy and dads name is Mark. Im pretty sure they got their names changed. PLEASE if anyone knows anything about them contact me. All I want is too see how much they grown and If they are all together. #11
Debbie - 11 months ago
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I am trying to help my aunt and 2 children find daughter born in 1957 and and daughter born in 1959 in Iowa City, Iowa hospital she was unwed she was 14 with first and 16 with second. she has always wanted them never wanted to give them up she was a child and her parents forced her to not see, touch, or name either one. she has been trying to find them for years but to no avail I am trying to help., I found my own adopted brother after 40 years but my aunt does not have 40 years so praying God can guide us and if they do not want to see or know we understand she wants to know they are ok. #12
Margie or Marjorie - 4 days ago
I was so young and immature and was searching for someone to love me but definately did it the very wrong way. I had no money and no job and a famy that had no money and lived in an old broken down house i got pregnant in 1972 and didnt even realize what was going on till my sister said the words "you look pregnant" Thats when i knew what was going on. I did not want to bring a precious baby into the same poor life. I haf lived through. She i made the decision to love her enough to let her go. She was born Michelle Lynn Toomey. At Beebe Hospital in Lewes Delaware at 2:56pm. She was an angel. I got to feed her and talk to her and just looked at her and told her how much i loved her. The next day we said good bye. It was through Milford Afoption Center. The ladies name was Ruth Wilde. I have already been thru Omni Search and paid them lots of money and they said they found nothing. I want my daughter to know i have been looking for her and still am will never quit till im gone. Love #13
Rossen Vasilev Vasilev - 1 week ago
We adopted Ross in 2002 from an orphanage in Haskovo Bulagaria. He is now 16 years of age and would love to connect with his birth family. He is now residining wiith his adoptivie family and is doing great. He loves to snowboard and is an excellent athlete. He play football and Lacrosse in High School. Ross would love to connect with his birth mom. He was brought to the orphanage in Haskovo at 10 days old. He is a great kid and would love to connect with his birth family. Please email xxxx or text xxxxx, We have contact with Mariana Gelova and would love to set up a meeting. Ross is the most loving boy we have ever met and hope that he can resolve so issues as he meets his birthmom and extended family.. #14
Donna sellers - 1 week ago
Hey I'm looking for my nephew and niece! My mother and their sister Tina Davis have been for many years with no luck! At birth their name was Antonio Davis and Joyce Ann Davis their Mother name Martha Jean Davis father Name Harry C Davis.. I can't remember the birthday exactly because I was just a kid my self but I think Antonio was about 3 or 4 at the time and Joyce about 1 or 2 we still love you dearly seems just like yesterday..we search for so long and then we stop because your mother was so sad! Then when she got sick the seaching started again..no luck she got so bad that she told us that she had seen her babies but we relize it was her imagination a few weeks later she passed away we continue looking now I don't know what to do your brother Harry has passed away as well Now Your Grandmother Olivia who kept you is sick and I'm not well either please if you out their let us know we never got over this..you was taken because someone did a jealous thing that separated a family #15
olivia becerra - 2 weeks ago
My name is olivia becerra when i was 19yrs old i got adicted to crack i had two beatifulblilbgirls maribel eloisa and emilia elena perez i was out of control i feel hard to taht drug and cps took my girls wich wasbthe best thingvfor them i was a drug adict and notjhing could stop me from wanting more i gave up and i dint fight i let my babiesbgo nomatter what drugs i was on i nvr stop thinking about them i know i dint deserve them they were more than i could evr be i was no good to them and for tht im srry my babies i want to find them i pray i do anyone can help mlz im on face book plz Im clean after so many yrs even after losing my girls i stayed on drugsbsad ugly life #16
fatima - 2 weeks ago
THANKS TO GREAT DR Sunny FOR SOLVING MY PROBLEMS HIS EMAIL IS (xxxx my name is Miss Fatima ,i was married to my husband for 5 years we were living happily together for this years and not until he traveled to Australia for a business trip where he met this girl and since then he hate me and the kids and love her only. so when my husband came back from the trip he said he does not want to see me and my kids again so he drove us out of the house and he was now going to Australia to see that other woman. so i and my kids were now so frustrated and i was just staying with my mum and i was not be treating good because my mother got married to another man after my father death so the man she got married to was not treating her well, i and my kids were so confuse and i was searching for a way to get my husband back home because i love and cherish him so much,so one day as i was browsing on my computer i saw a testimony about this spell caster DR Sunny, testimonies share #17
David - 4 weeks ago
How do i even begin, as i put so and so together it starting to kinda make sense. So when i was born my mother got my twin sister taken away from her. I am now 21, dealing with same heavy shade over my head. So i sat down and thought, its gotta be affecting me. Im always feeling down, keep in mind i just found this out yesterday but i acted like i didnt hear. Wish i knew how to feel about this. I had so many questions before about the weight always weighing me down and never had answers. But this might be, maybe NOT. Help, ive thought about suicide in the past. I am suprised to still be breathing to be honest, help #18
Barbara for Nancy - 4 weeks ago
Happy Birthday Dec 24 I know you were in contact with your birth sister in Vermont, but did not want to meet your Birth Mother. I am the cousin whose Home your Mom grew up in because of extenuating circumstances which you were not told of and could very well be heredity. There are other family illnesses you should know of. I am the last and oldest remaining relative you would have to ask any questions. I saw the pictures you sent and you look just like your Mom.I know you grew up in Bricktown Nj, and graduated 1977 and you may live in Delaware. Please contact me ,you should know so many things! Barbara Warth xxxxx #19
Sabratta Walker - 1 month ago
I've been looking for my biological sister for as long as I can remember I'm 27 now and she was adopted sixteen years ago her name is or was My' Asia Zhemone Walker at birth she was born January 14, 2000 at Erlanger Hospital in Chattanooga Tennessee but I think that the people who adopted her changed her name but if I can get some help threw this message I would love to find my Lil sister and to let her know that she has four more siblings and two nephew's and five nieces that asking when are they ever going to meet their auntie my' Asia she has me sabratta tameisha tederick and De' I DRA we are your three sisters and your one brother and where ever you are at just know that we love you and miss you and we always will also hope to see you again and soon since we haven't seen you since we all got separated from mom but hope to find you and reunite someday love you and all I know right now is the kind people who adopted you we're a doctor and a nurse and I think they arefromanothercountr #20

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