Adoption Search & Reunion

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Beginning an adoption reunion search can be the start to an emotionally difficult, yet rewarding journey. The first step is the biggest step you'll take. Deciding to begin your search and reunion journey commonly requires dedication, perseverance, and emotional and mental fortitude. Some of those who search find who they're looking for right away while others can search for years without success. Unfortunately, there isn't a way to know which category you'll fall into before you begin the process. However, even if success isn't met right away, the journey holds a lot of other benefits and advantages, including a better understanding of yourself and your life experiences.

Once you've decided to start your search, you will then have to decide how you're going to move forward. For starters, it's possible that the agency used to facilitate the adoption offers post-adoption services that include a registry or third party intermediary who will attempt to locate and contact the member of the triad you are searching for.

You can also search online directories that aren't related to a specific agency. Many of these online directories are free, including the Reunion Registry. Because of the modernity and popularity of social networking sites, that's a great place to start, too. Of course, these methods will only work if you already have identifying information about that person. You could also use the expertise of professional searchers, who do cost money, or search angels, who are free to work with. There are so many different ways to start and continue your reunion search, but you don't have to choose only one method. Why not try them all?

Often, services available through agencies or professional searchers do cost money, as mentioned above, so it's important to research the services you are investigating before taking that first step. Becoming active in online adoption communities will allow you to speak to others who may have used the services you are considering or it may lead you in a whole different direction altogether. However, it might be best to start with the free resources before moving on to the paid ones.

Once you've started your search, you'll want to begin the preparation for a possible reunion. It's important to keep your expectations of the relationship low and take things one step at a time. This is because you don't want to get your hopes up, have the reunion fail in some way, and become devastated. Keeping expectations low or expectations open and pliable means that you can get back up and keep trying until you're happy with the results. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and leap forward while emotions are high. However, taking time to ease into the relationship and build a strong foundation is important in the very first stages.

Try to keep communication light and easy until you've gotten to know the person a little better. Once you've gotten to know your adopted child or birth parent, you can then start to address the emotional topics, which will inevitably come up.

The reunion journey is an exciting one, even with all the bumps and hurdles along the way. Remember that every journey will be different, so try not to compare your reunion journey with others. Focus on your goal and your progression, and you'll soon be able to reconnect and reunite!

Adoption Reunion Discussions

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January 11, 2014, 11:16 am
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January 15, 2014, 8:58 am
First and foremost, let me say this: I was blessed with wonderful siblings! I'm not talking about my natural siblings, I'm talking about my...
Little Sister, Penny
January 15, 2014, 12:51 pm
My mind was a blank slate regarding my birth siblings . Born of the same mother, as far as I knew our resemblance would end there. Before...

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All Adoptees Please Post Here!
May 5, 2015, 8:34 am
Born Jan 3rd 1983 in Tulsa Oklahoma. Biological Mothers name right now is Susan Flagg and she graduated in 1980 from Weleetka Highschool.
Non-ID Info?
May 4, 2015, 5:12 pm
I submitted information to PAIR (Pennsylvania Adoption Information Registry), and surprise! No info available. The letter recommends...
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So its been 13 years since you posted this and I just found it while doing a family search. I was also looking for info on St. Marys...
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Debi - 3 years ago
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I would like to help my sister-in-law find her adopted child that was adopted in Ohio back in the 50's or 60's. She left her child with her family members while she looked for a job and when she returned they had adopted her out. What is the best way for me to do this? #1
Susan - 3 years ago
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I've been looking for my biologicla brother who was adopted into another home for over 10 years now...ive sent out flyers on gfacebook and still have no contact with's hard and emotionally draining anmd I find myself holding my heart because I feel a little empoty without knowing who he is,m if he's okay if I will ever meet hiim...I've had no luck and every day it seems harder and harder and further and further away from reach....I haven o one I know that is also adopted or reunited ewith family...I don't know any way to start or how to go about anything....i need help and each day it's less and less easy to find a path to go on... #2
Heather - 3 years ago
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My name is Heather Brode Maiden name is Hershberger. I was born in Barberton Ohio at Barberton Citizen Hospital on 8/18/85 at 9:00 a.m. by a Dr Mohamed Dabbas.. When I have searched my birthday along with the town and hospital I have a number that comes up and a name "Laurie Gregory" Ive been told that could be my mothers name or it could be what they would of named me When I've talked to other people. I dont have much information. My papers have said that both my parents were 23 at the time of my birth and that my father was booked in the summit county jail in Ohio on the day of my birth. The description I have gotten is my mother is a medium height with sandy brown hair and a speech impediment and the only description of my father that is recorded is that he appeared somewhat "Dull"..It also states that I have two brothers,It says that my eldest brother is two years and 10 months older and my other brother is 23 months older.. I am just looking for someone in the family #3
Melanie - 3 years ago
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I am a 28 year old African American woman I was born 12/07/1985. In Buffalo NY at Buffalo General Hospital I was put up for adoption through Catholic Charities agency. I was told the reason I was given up was because my birth mother was young she was in school and she already had a kid so I know I could possibly have biological siblings out there somewhere I would like to get to know. I would also like to know any family health history or concerns. I was told Melanie was the name I was given when I was born so if this story sounds familiar please reach out and we can start with baby steps on getting to know one another #4
Denise - 3 years ago
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I have searched for my birth parents for 30 years with the blessing of my adoptive parents (both are gone now). I know my DNA, and found 3-4 cousins this way but have had no luck in figuring out who my parents are. Private adoption with a lawyer. I was told my mother was 28 when she had me. She was 5' 6" dark hair grey eyes, Father was blonde 6". I was born in Seneca, Oconee County, South Carolina, 6 lbs, 6 ounces at birth - when my adoptive parents came to pick me up at Seneca Hospital, the nurse said "Come see baby Denice" Uncanny that I had been named Denise Elaine by my adoptive parents and Karen Denice by my birth mother. #5
Megan Pierson - 3 years ago
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Yesterday was my dad's birthday.. It really had me Thinking whether or not she's out here looking for us? Which really there's not many days that go by that I'm not thinking about it. Maybe it's best not to know her, like a mysterious part in our heads the way we would imagine her.. A woman we might look up to.. Or she could be woman we wouldn't be proud to a accept.. So maybe it's best that we never met.. So I can put all these imaginations in my head of how an incredible woman she is.. And that I'm just like her in some ways.. To push myself to be the best that I can be! But a part of me is missing... A grandma I never got to meet. A family I never got to know. Apart of her is in me.. In my blood, running through my veins.. I am her.. So I hope one day, she'll have enough courage to meet all of us.. Cause we sure want to meet her!(: to get a restart on life.. Like finally the question all of has been wondering/ asking.. Is finally answered without hesitation. #6
Paula - 2 years ago
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Hello! I am looking for my birth family who I think still resides in Miami Florida. I was born 09/03/87 at Jackson Memorial Hospital in Miami. My sister Nicole was born on 08/11/1988. We were adopted together. I have recently just started my search for my family, but I have already found a listing that a women put up stating that she is looking for us. My mother's name is Cheryl Darlene Penn. I don't know anymore information than that, but I am on facebook as Paula Brown if whoever is looking for me happens to see this. #7
Tara Jones - 2 years ago
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My name is Tara Jones, and I was born on 06.26.1974, in Jacksonville, Florida at Memorial Hospital. I am searching for any biological relative. I was told I have a brother who is two years older than me, and my bio mother came to Fl to have me because her parents lived here. I was also told that my bio father was a career Navyman stationed in Washington State. I heard she had blonde hair. I have no identifying information and even though I requested info from Tallahassee over a year ago, I have received nothing. Please HELP! #8
Brittany - 3 years ago
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Looking for my brother. His birthday is 1-6-86 he was adopted out of catholic family services in Oklahoma city. If you have any information, please contact me. I've been trying to find him for years. Help to find him is greatly appreciated. I feel as if I have an empty space in my life that only he can fill. Please help. #9
jodie Harwood - desiree's aunt - 3 years ago
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Hi, I've been looking now For a long time For my niece Desiree Marie Ann (Hamilton) though last name iis different because she was adopted in Indiana around 2005 . Me And her Mom is looking For her. We miss her very much. I'm her aunt jodie. Any Info please contact me I have facebook And twitter. (Jodie Harwood-johnson) she's welcome to contact me. I keep adding all these desiree's thinking one of them is her but nothing yet!! I'm still heartbroken that I haven't seen her since she was almost 9yrs Old And she's 18 yrs Old now. She was born 1/8/96 in (southbend/mishawaka,indiana) she may be in Indiana And she may not still be in Indiana. #10
shai-ane - 2 years ago
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My sister was adopted about about 2 years old in about 1987? I am desperatly trying to find her, ive searched on Facebook and really do not know what else to do. If anyone who knows what the right roads to take would be extremely helpful! It would be the most amazing thing to be re connected to my sister and to let her know she was never a secret and the reasons she was gave up... Just really need some help! #11
Sky - 1 year ago
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I'm sky and I an a teenager that is trying to find her sister that was taken away from my mom at 13 years old... All I know about her is that her name was Angel and that she's probably in California... I miss her and it tears me apart each night knowing she's not by my side when I truly need a sibling... I know some people are like in their 50's and still looking for siblings but.... I been going through depression for 2 years now knowing that I don't have a sister by my side and asking me what is wrong... My real mom is addicted to drugs and has been going to jail recently.. And I shut her out of my life about a week ago just because of how I'm adopted by my grandmother and she was never there for me when I best needed her.... I really need help finding her... I cry each night cause she's not here... I hate that my real mother kept her a secret from me.... Please I beg of someone to help me.... I need my sister. I'm not complete until I know she's by my side..... #12
Looking for 3 Wards from Indiana - 1 year ago
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I'm looking for my three little cousins that got adopted (not by choice) :( around 10 years ago.. Kelsea,Mark, and Erica Ward from Connersville Indiana. Kelsea will be 17 or 18 now. Mark 15 or 16 and Erica 13. I cant remember that much about them because i was young myself when they got adopted out. Their moms name is Tammy and dads name is Mark. Im pretty sure they got their names changed. PLEASE if anyone knows anything about them contact me. All I want is too see how much they grown and If they are all together. #13
Debbie - 1 year ago
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I am trying to help my aunt and 2 children find daughter born in 1957 and and daughter born in 1959 in Iowa City, Iowa hospital she was unwed she was 14 with first and 16 with second. she has always wanted them never wanted to give them up she was a child and her parents forced her to not see, touch, or name either one. she has been trying to find them for years but to no avail I am trying to help., I found my own adopted brother after 40 years but my aunt does not have 40 years so praying God can guide us and if they do not want to see or know we understand she wants to know they are ok. #14
Samantha - 3 years ago
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I'm not even sure if I'm looking for someone yet...or who I would even look for! I'm so lost and I just can't take it anymore. I'm so overwhelmed and I feel like I don't belong. I don't feel close to my family and it kills me! I Don't know why it had come down to me thinking I'm adopted! How could I be? I don't know but I don't know how to fix my broken relationship with my parents or how to fix myself. I don't think I'm adopted, I'm not sure. But how can I be so sure I mean my mom says that I looked like her when she was younger but I don't know. My brother and sister have more baby pictures of them than I do of me and it makes me feel like either they didn't pay attention or were too busy when I was a baby or they didn't know me when I was a baby. I signed up for this "search for someone" website. I'm not even sure what I'm gonna say. I'm not searching for someone even if I was who would I be searching for? I just feel broken and disappointed in myself like I messed/mess everything.. #15
Grace - 3 years ago
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Well i want to find my birth mom cause i am curious of who made im 14 and very sad of some of the things she did to mean when i was little. I want to see if she is alive so i can see what she looks like. I wouldn't want to talk to her because im very scared. Just need to know how to find her #16
wanda - 3 years ago
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Hi I was born in1982 in Pucallpa, Peru, I was adopted then from my American Parents. We stayed in Pucallpa for about 4 yrs and then moved to Colorado. I want to find my biological parents , if that is possible. How and where do I start. What is a good website I can go to? how would I get contacted back? cant put my email on here. #17
Teresa - 3 years ago
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Looking for birth mother and or siblings born april 1960 omaha nebraska. Dont have any names place of birth. was adopted from Nebraska childrens home to a loving family who could not have children. Interested in family health history and meeting any siblings if any. #18
emma - 1 year ago
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My partner recently told me his adopted and is beginning his search to find his biological mother. His behaviour and attitude has changed. How do i help him ? What should i expect now and in the future ? What things does he need to consider in his search to find his mother ? #19
Donna - 1 year ago
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I am searching for my son who was adopted in 1981. He was born Christopher Daniel Rhynes on Aug 22 1980 at North Mississippi Medical Center at 5:33pm. He has a scar on his left side because his lung collapsed within 2 days of his birth. He also has siblings that would love to meet him as well. Thanks #20

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