Adoption Search & Reunion

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Beginning an adoption reunion search can be the start to an emotionally difficult, yet rewarding journey. The first step is the biggest step you'll take. Deciding to begin your search and reunion journey commonly requires dedication, perseverance, and emotional and mental fortitude. Some of those who search find who they're looking for right away while others can search for years without success. Unfortunately, there isn't a way to know which category you'll fall into before you begin the process. However, even if success isn't met right away, the journey holds a lot of other benefits and advantages, including a better understanding of yourself and your life experiences.

Once you've decided to start your search, you will then have to decide how you're going to move forward. For starters, it's possible that the agency used to facilitate the adoption offers post-adoption services that include a registry or third party intermediary who will attempt to locate and contact the member of the triad you are searching for.

You can also search online directories that aren't related to a specific agency. Many of these online directories are free, including the Adoption.com Reunion Registry. Because of the modernity and popularity of social networking sites, that's a great place to start, too. Of course, these methods will only work if you already have identifying information about that person. You could also use the expertise of professional searchers, who do cost money, or search angels, who are free to work with. There are so many different ways to start and continue your reunion search, but you don't have to choose only one method. Why not try them all?

Often, services available through agencies or professional searchers do cost money, as mentioned above, so it's important to research the services you are investigating before taking that first step. Becoming active in online adoption communities will allow you to speak to others who may have used the services you are considering or it may lead you in a whole different direction altogether. However, it might be best to start with the free resources before moving on to the paid ones.

Once you've started your search, you'll want to begin the preparation for a possible reunion. It's important to keep your expectations of the relationship low and take things one step at a time. This is because you don't want to get your hopes up, have the reunion fail in some way, and become devastated. Keeping expectations low or expectations open and pliable means that you can get back up and keep trying until you're happy with the results. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and leap forward while emotions are high. However, taking time to ease into the relationship and build a strong foundation is important in the very first stages.

Try to keep communication light and easy until you've gotten to know the person a little better. Once you've gotten to know your adopted child or birth parent, you can then start to address the emotional topics, which will inevitably come up.

The reunion journey is an exciting one, even with all the bumps and hurdles along the way. Remember that every journey will be different, so try not to compare your reunion journey with others. Focus on your goal and your progression, and you'll soon be able to reconnect and reunite!

Adoption Reunion Discussions

Adoption Reunion Blogs

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First and foremost, let me say this: I was blessed with wonderful siblings! I'm not talking about my natural siblings, I'm talking about my...
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January 15, 2014, 12:51 pm
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May 5, 2015, 8:34 am
Born Jan 3rd 1983 in Tulsa Oklahoma. Biological Mothers name right now is Susan Flagg and she graduated in 1980 from Weleetka Highschool.
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Debi - 2 years ago
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I would like to help my sister-in-law find her adopted child that was adopted in Ohio back in the 50's or 60's. She left her child with her family members while she looked for a job and when she returned they had adopted her out. What is the best way for me to do this? #1
Susan - 1 year ago
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I've been looking for my biologicla brother who was adopted into another home for over 10 years now...ive sent out flyers on gfacebook and still have no contact with him...it's hard and emotionally draining anmd I find myself holding my heart because I feel a little empoty without knowing who he is,m if he's okay if I will ever meet hiim...I've had no luck and every day it seems harder and harder and further and further away from reach....I haven o one I know that is also adopted or reunited ewith family...I don't know any way to start or how to go about anything....i need help and each day it's less and less easy to find a path to go on... #2
Heather - 1 year ago
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My name is Heather Brode Maiden name is Hershberger. I was born in Barberton Ohio at Barberton Citizen Hospital on 8/18/85 at 9:00 a.m. by a Dr Mohamed Dabbas.. When I have searched my birthday along with the town and hospital I have a number that comes up and a name "Laurie Gregory" Ive been told that could be my mothers name or it could be what they would of named me When I've talked to other people. I dont have much information. My papers have said that both my parents were 23 at the time of my birth and that my father was booked in the summit county jail in Ohio on the day of my birth. The description I have gotten is my mother is a medium height with sandy brown hair and a speech impediment and the only description of my father that is recorded is that he appeared somewhat "Dull"..It also states that I have two brothers,It says that my eldest brother is two years and 10 months older and my other brother is 23 months older.. I am just looking for someone in the family #3
Melanie - 1 year ago
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I am a 28 year old African American woman I was born 12/07/1985. In Buffalo NY at Buffalo General Hospital I was put up for adoption through Catholic Charities agency. I was told the reason I was given up was because my birth mother was young she was in school and she already had a kid so I know I could possibly have biological siblings out there somewhere I would like to get to know. I would also like to know any family health history or concerns. I was told Melanie was the name I was given when I was born so if this story sounds familiar please reach out and we can start with baby steps on getting to know one another #4
Denise - 1 year ago
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I have searched for my birth parents for 30 years with the blessing of my adoptive parents (both are gone now). I know my DNA, and found 3-4 cousins this way but have had no luck in figuring out who my parents are. Private adoption with a lawyer. I was told my mother was 28 when she had me. She was 5' 6" dark hair grey eyes, Father was blonde 6". I was born in Seneca, Oconee County, South Carolina, 6 lbs, 6 ounces at birth - when my adoptive parents came to pick me up at Seneca Hospital, the nurse said "Come see baby Denice" Uncanny that I had been named Denise Elaine by my adoptive parents and Karen Denice by my birth mother. #5
Megan Pierson - 1 year ago
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Yesterday was my dad's birthday.. It really had me Thinking whether or not she's out here looking for us? Which really there's not many days that go by that I'm not thinking about it. Maybe it's best not to know her, like a mysterious part in our heads the way we would imagine her.. A woman we might look up to.. Or she could be woman we wouldn't be proud to a accept.. So maybe it's best that we never met.. So I can put all these imaginations in my head of how an incredible woman she is.. And that I'm just like her in some ways.. To push myself to be the best that I can be! But a part of me is missing... A grandma I never got to meet. A family I never got to know. Apart of her is in me.. In my blood, running through my veins.. I am her.. So I hope one day, she'll have enough courage to meet all of us.. Cause we sure want to meet her!(: to get a restart on life.. Like finally the question all of has been wondering/ asking.. Is finally answered without hesitation. #6
Michael - 2 years ago
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Male born on September 21, 1985 in Jacksonville, Florida (I think) and processed through The Children's Home Society. Supposedly my mother died before my adoption finalized in October 1985. I was told she was beaten and fell into a coma from which she never awoke. I may have two half brothers through her. I have completed 23andMe.com and found that I am largely British-Irish with hints of Polish-Russian. Contact: xxxx This is the beginning of my journey, and it already feels like the end. The Florida statutes protect the biological parents like I'm a piece of irrelevant chattel without a say in the matter. Closed adoption laws are so inhumane to adult adoptees. The very nature of human behavior and instinct is to look to your history for enlightenment. Hence, the wide popularity of archaeology and genealogy. It's human nature to investigate the past. Legislatures should be ashamed of their decisions to seal off all identifying information to adoptees. #7
Paula - 11 months ago
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Hello! I am looking for my birth family who I think still resides in Miami Florida. I was born 09/03/87 at Jackson Memorial Hospital in Miami. My sister Nicole was born on 08/11/1988. We were adopted together. I have recently just started my search for my family, but I have already found a listing that a women put up stating that she is looking for us. My mother's name is Cheryl Darlene Penn. I don't know anymore information than that, but I am on facebook as Paula Brown if whoever is looking for me happens to see this. #8
Tara Jones - 11 months ago
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My name is Tara Jones, and I was born on 06.26.1974, in Jacksonville, Florida at Memorial Hospital. I am searching for any biological relative. I was told I have a brother who is two years older than me, and my bio mother came to Fl to have me because her parents lived here. I was also told that my bio father was a career Navyman stationed in Washington State. I heard she had blonde hair. I have no identifying information and even though I requested info from Tallahassee over a year ago, I have received nothing. Please HELP! #9
Maria - 2 weeks ago
I am looking for my daughter that was put up for adoption March 6, 1985. Her birth name was Clara Flores. The only Information that I know about her is that her adopted name is Victoria Christine and her adopted moms name is Victoria Gloria out of Santa Barbara county. I have been looking for years now. So have my two other daughters Marina and Cassandra also her grandmother San Juana. I was shyvof my 15th birthday when I had her. Her her biological family still live in San Diego CA. She was adopted through Children's Home Society in San Diego. Not a day goes by that she is spoke of in one way or another. Please if anyone has any information please contact me at my xxxxxx xxxx. thank you #10
Tarondha - 3 weeks ago
My sister have been searching for day in and day out restlessly. I've been searching high and low for 13 year's for my little sister Tazariah. I've only seen her once in my 19 year's of life and I need to know is she loved? Is she ok? Who's loving her? And, if they're loving my little sister the way I see fit. After I was born my mom became I'll and was not able to attend to daily life routines. My grandmother had Tazariah in her care when she became seriously I'll.. Tazariah was removed as a baby, taken and put in the system to be taken away and put up for adoption. Although, she has a loving family here searching hard for her. She should be 14 year's old today, Turning 15 year's old Graduating 8th Grade and Begging September 2016 as a freshman in high school #11
Kelly - 4 weeks ago
Hi. My name is Kelly Anne DiMartino. My maiden name is Martin. I am looking for my nephew, Theodore Collins Martin. Born on August 9, 2009 in West Virginia. My brothers name is Timothy and the young lady's name is Cheryl Clauss. Back in 2009 they talked about putting him up for adoption and before any decisions were made my jerk off brother left the state. I think about this child, so much and wonder where he is. Theodore would be 7 years old now and I want him to know he has family that cares and loves him If anyone knows anything or this sounds familiar, I would be ever so grateful for a call or email. #12
Brice - 1 month ago
I am attempting to locate any of my birth family. I am essentially looking for a sense of self. A potential reunion might be nice but I prefer to take it nice and easy and find out where we end up. I was born in Las Vegas, Nevada in March of 1967 at Southern Nevada Memorial Hospital and Catholic Services handled the adoption. I've been told that I was adopted the day I was born but there is some conflicting information there. Any correspondence is welcome and for everyone out there searching for someone, I wish you the best. #13
Brittany - 1 year ago
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Looking for my brother. His birthday is 1-6-86 he was adopted out of catholic family services in Oklahoma city. If you have any information, please contact me. I've been trying to find him for years. Help to find him is greatly appreciated. I feel as if I have an empty space in my life that only he can fill. Please help. #14
jodie Harwood - desiree's aunt - 1 year ago
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Hi, I've been looking now For a long time For my niece Desiree Marie Ann (Hamilton) though last name iis different because she was adopted in Indiana around 2005 . Me And her Mom is looking For her. We miss her very much. I'm her aunt jodie. Any Info please contact me I have facebook And twitter. (Jodie Harwood-johnson) she's welcome to contact me. I keep adding all these desiree's thinking one of them is her but nothing yet!! I'm still heartbroken that I haven't seen her since she was almost 9yrs Old And she's 18 yrs Old now. She was born 1/8/96 in (southbend/mishawaka,indiana) she may be in Indiana And she may not still be in Indiana. #15
Phyllis - 21 hours ago
Adoptee searching for 2 sisters adopted in 1950s in Ohio. Birth names are KarenSueGray born 6/17/55 in MartinsFerry,OH and ReginaMarieAlvey born 7/20/56 in Columbus,GA. 61 yr old female here. Our parents are deceased but we have half siblings you could meet in Ohio. We were taken from parents by authorities to a children's home in Tacoma,OH and adopted separately from there as toddlers. If it is part of God's plan, we will connect some day in this lifetime. Bless all you searchers. #16
Candi (Jeamie is birth name) - 6 days ago
I am looking for my birth parents and full blood siblings. I was born April 23, 73 in Beaumont hospital to a woman who stayed with her sister in Madison Heights MI thru her pregnancy. She was from blue earth minnesota and was going to marry my father in april of 74. He was from sherburn, Minnesota. I was born at 2:54 a.m at beaumont hospital in royal oak MI. My mother was born in 51 blue earth. My dad in 53. Please help. Sincerely Candice Beamer (Candi) thank you #17
Charles - 7 days ago
Looking for bio parents to get medical history. Was born 1/27/1973 in Buffalo,NY through Catholic Charities. Bio mom was 5'3" age 16 w/ brown hair and eyes. Bio dad was 18, 6'3" w/ blonde hair and blue eyes. Looking for any possible leads. Contact me at xxxx #18
My name is alisha busick - 1 week ago
I had lost my daughter honnesty busick to the state when she was born and i would love to be reunited with her her birthdate was oct 14 2007 and i miss her so much if any bodys has the heart to even contact me and just let me say hi and that im sorry and that i love her so much my number is xxxxx thanks #19
Candyce Dunn - 1 week ago
I am looking for my grandson Andrew David ?.Last name has beern changed.His birthdate is 10/4/95 in Sonora California . I was suppose to get grandparents rights but as soon as papers were signed they took them away.I have called adoption agency in Sacromento Calif. for years and they told me only his siblings can fill out paper work and find him I have just done that. I do have his S.S.I number,where do I go from here? #20
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